"This gets my 4 this week because it reads like a call to arms for anyone who has ever been mistreated. These things can happen and bring real misery upon someone, but there is usually a balance to everything in life as is stated in the comments, and Em seems to have found hers at least. She has suffered, but come out the other side - perhaps stronger and more appreciative than she may have been if she had never suffered these wounds, both mental and physical. I am aware, however, that that is a potentially ignorant thing to say, but I wonder if Em herself would agree with me? It would make it an even greater victory, wouldn't it, to be able to say "because you did this to me, I am happier and stronger than I otherwise would have been".
You go, girl, and be very happy." (4)
So I had been meaning to comment on this, but in the past few weeks I had been dealing with the reality of forgiving someone in my life and I realized how much he was still holding me back.
My heart hurts that this person betrayed your trust, your love, innocence and manipulated all those things. I don't think anyone else but you can say "everything happens for a reason" because I know I have heard this statement from others who try to force that sentiment on me... but I have to truly believe it for myself. No one is ever, ever deserving of abuse and it's okay if that point of forgiveness doesn't come for awhile because I know how much bitterness and anger there still can be.
I'm just proud of you either way and happy you've found a love that treats you right and only builds you up, never tears you down <3
Ma I am truly sorry that you're having to go through the scenario of having to forgive someone, it truly isn't a nice thing to have to do but unfortunately there's many times in life where we have to forgive people for wrongdoings they have set upon us to be able to move on and this is one of the reasons that I had to forgive him for the things (not all of them that's for sure) he'd done to me so that the wonderful relationship I'm currently in didn't suffer because I'll be the first to admit it was beginning to go that way and I couldn't let him slip through my fingers. Thanks all for your lovely comments x
Sometimes, things happen for a reason, Em. I'm not saying you ever would have chosen that sort of treatment, but it has ultimately led you to where you are now in your life. I go on about balances, but I am a great believer in balance: for every good there is a bad and for every bad, a good. Love can treat you unkindly, but when the scales are balanced, the rewards are often breathtaking.
Inspirational poem, Em. Nominated.
forgiveness is easier said than done. I feel that if a person can move on by releasing any resentment, this can free up their lives. We are made up of our experiences, so perhaps our scars can be badges?