after greed takes all,
there's nothing left but flower
pots and ping pong balls
Ben Pickard 2020
*my grandmother died recently, and
after the clinched family fighting for her
assets, I walked around the grounds
and realised all I wanted was a ping pong ball from
the pavilion where I used to play table tennis as a child.
My brother took a flower pot.
Ben, I send my deepest condolences to you and your family. And I am even more sorry that you had to witness the actions of your family as you described. I am glad though that you and your brother could take what meant something to each of you.
Such an emotional syntuit, especially when someone's passing should bring family together, to share memories and share in their grieving, not to be divided among possessions. When my grandpa passed years ago, (not related by blood but he was closer to me than my actual grandparents), there was so much tension between his children. He was also my mom's best friend, and it broke her heart to see the back-and-forth. They also had an open auction for his things, which apparently is common, but being younger I didn't like strangers picking through his things. What I cherish is his baseball cap that he would always wear. I still have it to this day and it makes me smile.
So very personal, yet so relatable. At times where families should pull together, they push apart.
I'm sure you'll cherish your keepsake forever.
I recently reupholstered my late grans fireside chair. It helps keep her memory alive.
Hi Ben, the last will and testament (title) made me believe this was about a death in itself or possibly someone is thinking of making a will
because they're of ill health or have possibly been told that they don't have that long to live, unfortunately; which is very sad but you only live once and life is, clichéd if you will, what you make it.
The first line let's me know that this is certainly after a death because it seems a lot of people want, want, want and take things that they most definitely do not deserve as throughout a person life they weren't there but in death they give a good show, don't they? Sad as it seems.
The last two lines are a real kick in the gullet because I'm guessing those that deserved more wanted less anyway, this happened when my great uncle and nan died - I was always there for them both but got nothing and in all honesty wanted nothing but them back either. It's an unfortunate state of affairs but what else can we do but move on with our lives, grief and memories in hand and know that we made their lives better because we were actually there for them and wanted for nothing. May you be blessed with good memories of your grandmother and her love fill your heart. Take care, Em x