I feel your pain ooze out of your every word. You are not selfish. We, the ones left behind need to deal with the hole that is left when the other departs. Even when we believe firmly in God, then that does not alter the fact that we have to sit out the remainder of our life without the other person being physically present.
I don't know who this is about, either your grandmother or your mama, but the advice is the same: allow yourself to grieve until you feel it is time to move on, ok? Don't let anyone tell you it 'should' be over now. Allow the wound to slowly heal, take long walks in nature, feed your body right and try and sleep a reasonable amount of hours, so it will still be healthy once your mind is healed. You will also derive strength from your body that way, because the mind and body are so closely connected.
I know you will come through this with flying colours, because you are strong that way!
All the best for you and your husband and I am sending you loads of hugs and kisses,
When a loved one has passed we become very overwhelmed and quite don't understand what just happened.Griefing is a process and there is no time limit on it.And no you are not being selfish.Leaving the bed unfixed amongst other things is a way of keeping that loved one alive.Take your time and grief and in time you will regain your strength.My heart goes out to you and I wish you all the best.
..I remember my Gran dying many years ago. I recall how that felt. Grandparents often hold a special place in our hearts and when they pass on their mark remains, just like the smell of coconut oil will always conjure her memory for you.
A very good piece of writing.
1 year ago
by Ben Pickard
Sometimes this sort of write is the most sincere, honest and moving; just getting down what is real and what you are feeling. Not trying to "overproduce" reality, if you understand what I mean.
That's exactly what this is: real, sincere and extremely moving; well done and all the very best,
Dreams will never come true when they involve someone who's passed on. A sad truth that you bring to light in this touching work of yours. I have been fortunate that I haven't had to deal with much death (knock on wood) in my life, but I know that it's coming in the future and it is something that I think of every day with the utmost trepidation. First of all, I'm sorry for your loss. Second of all, if I had the power, I'd make it so this poem needn't have ever existed. Unfortunately, I do not.
You really do put emphasis on the appreciation of life that comes from death throughout this piece, though. It's a harsh reality, and I think you single-handedly help anyone who reads this poem prepare for that inevitability.
Thank you for this write, and much love!