IM HAPPy BUT iTS MAKiNG ME SECoND GUESS My DECiSi0N....

HEY EVERYONE,

WELL HERE MY PROBLEM.. MY BOYFRIEND AND I HAVE BEEN DATING A MONTH OR SO AND LATELY HES HASNT BEEN TRYIN TO HANG OUT WITH ME... AND I WILL SAY ITS MOSTLY BECAUSE WE BOTH WORK AND OUR SCHEDULES COLLIDE.. BUT WHEN I DO TRY TO MAKE PLANS TO HANG OUT WITH HIM HE TENDS TO HAVE OTHER PLANS... IM HOPING HES BEING FAITHFUL AND I DONT WANT TO SECOND GUESS HIM.. HE TELL ME HE WANTS TO SEE ME BUT I DONT SEE A SIGNIFICANT EFFORT COMING FROM HIS SIDE.. WHAT SHOULD I DO?? AND LATELY HES BEEN SAYING THINGS YOU WOULDNT REALLY SAY IN A REALTIONSHIP
IDK
HELP PLEASE
CONFUSED BUT HAPPY =] =/

ASK HIM

I HAVE TRiED ASKiN HiM && HELL GiVE ME A DUMB EXCUSE LiKE i HAVENT SEEN My FRiEND iN A LoNG TiME... oR THE LADY HE LiVES WiTH WoNT LET HiM LEAVE FoR SoME REASoN oR ANoTHER...

iDK

Then give him an option. decide to man up and tell you the truth, or you are leaving him.

you obviously don't deserve that.

ps.
turn off your cap locks, i think we can all read you perfectly fine without them.

Just ask him.

Should I ask him on the phone or over the internet.. How would you go about asking him??

Well in person would be ideal because they want to avoid the situation usually if they can, and just hang up or go offline, but if you want to do it now- I'd use the phone.
it's much more REAL than the internet.

Thanks anyone have any other advice.. mayb how to bring it to him without sounding rude or being mean so he doesnt think im goin to end it with him....

Well, tell him you don't plan on ending it with him when you first start to talk to him about it? (but you may have to.)

UPDATE: he still hasnt spoken a word to me and i dont like this... today is 4-20 and he may not be calling because hes off getting high and i already told him my thoughts on doing stuff like that... and im honestly losing interest in him.. i have to be entertained to be able to stay around....ugh this sucks

If you are losing interest in him, i doubt you will just suddenly be back in adoration with him the next day, so i suggest you break it off now, before you feel too guilty.
there is no point forcing yourself to stay in a relationship you are not happy in.

He not that involved in using drugs he may smoke once or twice a week... i dont like it cuz ive been around it all my life and i know the affects of it..

but he just wrote me back in a message and apologized for doing me wrong and not talkin to me.. idk i want to believe him.. but in the next week or so if he doesnt fix his act he will be out the door... i want this to work cuz he is someone great...

should i try that??

its hard

Well, if he has no time for you in this relationship I think it is pointless to be together.

It will only hurt you more and more... And then your feelings will become less stronger..

But you must make it clear to him you are not going to continue being in this situation... Discuss about this with him..