Moving out at 17?

I am 16 and I will be turning 17 this August. Also in August is my one year anniversary with my boyfriend Marcus. In September his and his roomates' lease on their apartment is up and he will have to move again. My problem is that I want to move out with him but both of my parents are saying no. But this is something I really want to do. I've already graduated high school so why should I have to stay? Yeah ok, they are saying that I'm going to be like every other girl and get pregnant. "What kind of parent would I be to let my little girl move out and start having sex?" Is what my mother says. This is a conflict I have against her. Marcus spends the night so often and we are left alone while they go to the bar and get drunk until 2 in the morning. Everytime he comes over we sleep in the living room together. Hell, my mother even suggested he sleep in my room the last two nights he spent the night. She practically lets us have sex the way she leaves us alone everytime I get to see him. I'm not saying that it isn't a possibility that I wouldn't get pregnant, but honestly, I have not, and I will not have sex without birth control. And if birth control fails then oh well, accidents happen, right?
But I am so frustrated and I just want to scream at her. I can't spend another year here doing nothing. I have a job, I work full time at Dairy Queen. And it's walking distance from my house (which is the only reason I'm able to have that job). My parents are never home. All they do is work so I barely see them. I want to move so badly. I don't live in the city, I live on a stretch of highway 28 miles away from the city so there isn't much to do. I don't have a car and I don't want one. They are too expensive and if I'm going to live in the city I can walk or take the Max train. I don't want to be here anymore. All my parents do is fight, they won't get a divorce. My mother gets drunk and my father just leaves me to deal with her. I do not feel like I can stay here another year. My family is falling apart and it's hurting me. I don't want to be blamed or criticized anymore. I.just.Want. Out.

So what I want to know is, is it really such a bad idea to move out at age 17? And does anyone have any advice on what I can say to them, or what I can do to let them let me move? I've made it pretty clear that I really don't want to be here (or else I will seriously go crazy. Not kidding, my sister did). Is there any reason that I should stay here with them????

Thanks

One more year changes everything. My relationship with Marcus is long distance and we don't get to see each other as much as we used to. We might not make it until I'm 18.....

I wouldn't stay at Dairy Queen. I have a lot of money saved as it is. Marcus is planning on getting 2 jobs and I am looking for a better job. No, my life dream is to become a nanny but I can't go to nanny school until I'm 18. Which is another reason why I want to move. If I moved out and got a better paying job then I could save money quicker for admittance into nanny school.

I'd get your life a little more in order before you try to live on your own. Nothing against Dairy Queen- it's a great job for a 17 year old, especially since you're living at home. It's just not something you plan on doing forever, I would assume.

Plus- you shouldn't move in with your boyfriend just to get away from home. That is only going to cause problems in your relationship if that's the best reason you have.

Honestly, wait one year. Then look into moving out. If you're still with your boyfriend, then there's one option; if not then I'm sure you can find some friends to move in with. Are you looking into post-secondary school at all? I would really recommend it.

Good luck.

Edit (just read your second post)- If you're worried about making it to two years with your boyfriend now, then you probably shouldn't live with him. Your relationship clearly isn't that stable.

"We might not make it until I'm 18....."

Yet you say you love one another. You have money saved, you are working, do you realize when you move out on your own, you are responsible for rent, food, bills and it all adds up and eats through your paycheck quickly. Maybe you should put some resumes out there and see what your options are. I don't think there is anything wrong with leaving home, but don't do it just to spite your parents.

Ok what you've got to realize is that the only reason I work at Dairy Queen is because I can walk there. Because it's the only thing I have to do. And plus I need to save money.

And secondly, I don't want to move out with him just to get away from my parents. I want to be with him, and I want to start my life. Getting away from my parents is just a benefit. I'm sick of being yelled at and blamed for everything.

Yes, I have looked into every bill that I am going to need to pay. Trust me, I am capable of paying them.

I moved out at a young age (not because I wanted to but because I had too). Trust me it is HARD. It was a struggle everyday untill I was able to further my education and find a good job.

I do not doubt that you can make it. Because when it comes down to it people make things happen. But if you can hang in there, you should stay. Keep saving your money and go to school. Once you have a collage education it is easy to find a good job.

But, you know what? That is just my opinion. I know that you are going to do what you want regardless of what people say. If you really want to move out, you should consider moving in with friends rather than your boyfriend. Once you move in with him things will change. Have you ever heard the old saying:

"You dont know a person as good as you think you do untill you live with them"

It's true. You may love him today- move in with him and you might want to stranggle him the next.

Well, good luck in what ever it is that you decide to do.

"Getting away from my parents is just a benefit. I'm sick of being yelled at and blamed for everything."

Yet here you say

"My parents are never home. All they do is work so I barely see them."

And then

"All my parents do is fight, they won't get a divorce. My mother gets drunk and my father just leaves me to deal with her."

Don't make excuses for yourself or anyone else, you know what you want to do and potentially what you are going to do. I don't really get the point of asking questions you don't really want answered becauseyour mind is already made up lol