How do you know?

My ex and i have been on and off for a year and half now and im pretty tired of it now.
Im cutting him out of my life and everything is going great, but just when i see him or meet him its like ive gone straight back to square one.
I havent seen him for about a month now and my heart races when i think i could see him, i dont know quite whether thats nerves or because i want to see him.
I know i dont want him back because he was the first and worst relationship i could have ever had and i never been so upset but when you break up with them all the bad goes away and all you can remember is the good. Then you get back together and it never works because the past comes back.
I want to know whether im over him or if im not .. how do i get over him?
I have a new guy on the scene and hes defiantly keeping my mind of him..bt if i see my ex while im with my new guy..i dont know if i would want my ex or him quite yet?

What do i do?

I say don't go back to your ex. That's probably the worst thing you can do.

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have had one of those relationships as well. He was my first "love" and all that. It's been a few years since I've been with him or seen him for that matter (I moved) and I still catch myself thinking about him and what could have been.

But in the long run it's been better to just move on. If you're not sure who you want, give yourself some time before jumping into anything. But definately keep your options open. Why not give the new guy a chance after you figure your stuff out?

Sometimes we get comfortable in a rut and it can lead to making bad decisions because even if it is a bad relationship, we know what's going to happen, we don't have to worry about that, but it is not worth going back. You had a connection so of course feelings are going to be fluttering around and resurfacing, it doesn't mean you want him back or you should be together, it just means at some point you cared about him. The only way to move on is to accept you are not good together.