When love's involved

At my school, we had a speaker the other day and he brought up something that sparked my curiosity. The example was like this:

Say "joe" is a buddy of yours, he kind of has a temper. Everyone's at a party where there's drinking and he's telling everyone he wants to hook up with "Jane". She's no showing interest as much as he'd like so he starts feeding her drinks so that she'll get drunk and she won't really know what's going on. You do nothing to stop it because "it's none of your business what he does with his life". When she still doesn't seem interested, he decides to drink too.

This could go several ways but for the sake of the post let's say it goes one of two. 1) She gets drunk and still doesn't want too, but is so intoxicated, he does it anyway because he too, is drunk. Which, is rape. 2) He just decides he wants to go home. He grabs his keys and starts to leave. You stop him because he's your friend and too drunk to drive.

Why did it suddenly become your business?

So i guess my question is: why are we so willing to turn our head the other way when it's not someone we love at risk?

"So i guess my question is: why are we so willing to turn our head the other way when it's not someone we love at risk?"

That's based on the assumption that we would do nothing, I personally would say something, you make the choice for yourself and live with the consequences. Personally I would hope someone would say something whether you know them or love them or not.

Iwould definitely say something, so that assumption is incorrect.....

I didn't mean for it to sound like every single person, just talking about the speaker and the results we got, which were actually pretty overwhelming.

"You can't say you would DEFINITELY do something"

If there witnessing it I could definetely say yes I would do something because I have done something. Situations are as hard as you make them, even if you say something and the girl tells you to get lost, atleast you attempted to help, for me it is called having a conscience and anything I would not want happening to someone I love, I would not want to watch happen to someone I don't know.Yeah it is easier to turn your head, but life isn't about easy.

I like to help everyone. I helped a girl the other day I didn't even now. I would help anyone even if they didn't love me.

The point of the example was that a lot of people wouldn't think it harmful, just a drunk hook up. But why would they be throwing drinks at someone non stop if they honestly thought they wanted to do something with them. And the fact that they don't, makes it wrong.
And i am not talking about YOU personally. I'm talking about our society as a whole. Where, i do believe that assumption is correct. yes, some would actually stop it but most would rather "mind their own business"

I never said anyone was attacking anyone and I did answer the question, for myself and not for everyone else.

"it is easier to turn your head"

was an answer, was it not?

I guess some people feel it's safer to not interfere. When most people should anyway. I agree more people should get involved if someone is at risk, 'joe' wouldn't be your loved one, but he could be for someone else.

So i guess my question is: why are we so willing to turn our head the other way when it's not someone we love at risk?

^ You just answered your own question right there.