Thought a lot about this

I think you shoudl go for it I dont se any harm. YOu saud " i'd never go back with tyler" you also said you worudl be there for him...

you do have your rights to go and see the boy, I guess speak to your boyfirend make him come with you as well to make sure if he doesnt agree or something.

again...i'd say go and see him ...nothing going on right...dont EVR give up o n him...maybe he did chnage... do whatver YOU think would be best...even if it means just a phone call...

I NEVER SAID my relationship with my boyfriend is unstable, and ITS NOT. I have been with my boyfriend for over a year now. And I gave up on my friends because they are so judgmental against country people and farmers.

My ex Tyler is the one I was going with before I met my current boyfriend Adam. Tyler and I have dated for about 4 months, maybe more or less, last year [2007]. We broke up long before I met Adam and started dating him.

Does this explain it better Amanda?

Okay, I'm lost.
You've been with your boyfriend for over a year.
But just two months ago in October, you posted that message for help about telling a guy how you feel about him? I may be mistaken, but were you asking how to tell him that you fancy him? If that's the case, what the hell? If you never told him how you felt, how were you guys together for over a year? Or was that another person?

If that's not the case, what DID you have to tell that guy?

And by the way, Amanda didn't say YOU said your relationship is unstable. She said that it is clear that you're unstable in relationships--aka, she's looking at what you've been posting, evaluated, and that's the ending statement she has come up with.

But onto this post specifically:
If you've been dating Adam for over a year, isn't it about time that you realize that the boy has stuck around long enough that if he were a nice boyfriend, he wouldn't want to "bring you down" in any way for any reason whatsoever?

Your ex is your ex for a reason. And I'm assuming that by not giving up on Tyler, you mean that you won't give up on trying to change him--not that you won't give up on him in the sense that you still fancy him. If that's the case, Adam shouldn't interfere or be the reason why you're stopping yourself.

Because he's your boyfriend of over a YEAR. If he doesn't trust you or know you well enough by now to realize that you're not going to cheat on him--then what the heck have you two been doing together this whole time?

You sound sure of yourself that you're not ever going to want to get back with Tyler, which is good, because you being sure of yourself is all you need. Adam has no right to hold you back if he does end up doing so--and you have the right to see Tyler.

^^ Agreed .

Britt always has the simplest, most obvious answers ... Brilliant :)

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