Mixed Signals

Alright, I started talking to this guy back in January and then we ended it the end of April because both needed to enjoy what we had left of senior year and we'd see what happened between us in college.

Coming to college I was the typical girl flirting with other guy and trying to find someone. I found a guy and it didn't work out. Well the guy I had been talking to goes to the same school as me and we'd run into each other before class a couple days a week and talk.

Well last week he started calling me when he was walking back to his dorm room at night and would skype me and we'd just end up joking around and talking for hours. In our conversations he would be like why don't you text me anymore. So I started too because I still have had feelings for him off and on since January.

So friday night he was gonna come over and hang out with my roommate and I and watch movies but was already with his friends when I asked and it was already 10. Then last night he was sick and just hanging around his dorm room so he called me and we talked for a while. He was going to come over to where I live to pick up some friends later and said if I wasn't too drunk he'd stop and say hi. Well plans changed and that never happened. Although he said that I should come stay with him last night so he wasn't alone in his dorm room but knew I couldn't get in because it was homecoming and they were on lock down.

Well today he is being difficult and not talking to me at all. I don't know if it's because I left him some interesting voice mails last night but when I asked he said he wasn't mad.

I have no idea what he wants with me and I don't know if I should always be there when he texts and calls me if he's not when I text him?

...Why do girls always point the finger at the guy? I've read two posts now that ask, "What does he want from/with me?" when it's really about what they want. Honestly, I want to know! I'm a woman, I use to be a girl, but even I don't get it!

Everything sounds hunky dory to me. You make it sound like he's done something wrong.

If he says he's not mad then he probably isn't. If he is mad, give him time, maybe he will tell you when he's ready. Maybe he's not mad at all. Maybe he's embarrassed. Don't pressure the guy.

What kind of voice mails did you leave him exactly that were so "interesting" that you think they have something to do with it? Drunk/booty calling/texting him? I think he should be the one asking us whether or not to be there when you call or text him if that's the case!

They were drunk phone calls.. but nothing about wanting to be with him. Basically saying we should hang out and how much i respected him for not getting drunk.

I apologized and he said I didn't say anything bad.

He sounds like a stand up guy. I'm sure that if he says he's not mad and that nothing's wrong then he's being honest.

Maybe he just had a bad day or had a scuff with someone else and just needed time to think or be alone. Just give him space, he'll come around on his own time. Most guys do. I know my boyfriend does.

Yea I'm gonna give him some space for now :) let him have guy time and he can talk to me when he wants to.

Thanks this is going to be hard

It will be, especially when you want to be part of the solution. But sometimes guys, like everyone, want to come to that themselves.

Last night my boyfriend & I were in the same situation. Something had upset him, and I too thought it was something I'd said. I tried asking him about it, but he was insufferable and impatient. So I left him alone to go about his business, but not before I gave him a piece of my mind about his sudden snarly attitude towards me. Less than an hour later, after my words sunk in & he cooled down, he finally told me what was bothering him.

Yea, I'm just confused because he tells me he misses my texts so I get used to texting him again and he never texts or anything anymore. We'll see if he calls tonight on the way back to his dorm like usual

I don't mean to butt in, but I agree with her. If he says he's not mad nine time out of ten he's not. Guys arn't like girls in that way, they don't usually care what you look like, they don't hold many grudges, they don't think your make-up is bad.He's probably confused, or embarrassed. I was raised by, and with boys, and she's right, he's probably just being a collage man. That's how they all are.