Help, BOUNDARIES.

This guy and i have been talking for 3 months now and we havent made it official but we are pretty much together. He's a great guy and i really really care about him a lot! He wants to know where im at in the relationship and i don't really know how to answer that question..so thats my first dilemma how do i answe that question....My second dilemma is he asked what are the boundaries for where were at right now..well..I mean i don't want to have sex were not dating so im not really down with that but what other boundaries do you think should be set..Please help and Thank you :]

I think it really depends what you're ready for, i mean everyone goes at a different pace.

Hell the boundaries should be what you and him want not what we want. Set whatever boundaries you think are needed as you go?

As far as I'm concerned these questions he asks of you are pretty much self-explanatory... Or so I thought, but apparently he has and you have proved me wrong.

Your first and second "dilemma" generally go hand in hand.

My questions are, how would we know where you stand in the relationship or what boundaries should be set? If you don't even know where you stand in the "relationship", what makes you sure we do? It's not uncommon that you don't know where you stand in the relationship. Don't get so worked up about it, it's ONLY been 3 months for crying out loud! And as far as boundaries go, you've already said that you don't want to sleep with him because you're confused about your "relationship" and, I HOPE, because you've only been "dating" for 3 months. That's a good a boundary as any, better than none.

My advice... Before you start playing your role in the "relationship" and make boundaries, you should establish whether or not there is a relationship, considering you don't even know whether you are officially dating or not. You need to ask yourself some serious questions and answer them maturely and honestly.

3 months... You're not under any obligation to answer those questions nor make the decision right now.

Only you know the answer to that one sweetie. The boundaries should be whatever you and he are comfortable with, and that means no putting pressure on eachother to do something that makes u feel bad. Perhaps u need to work out if u guys are in a relationship first and ask the other questions later. Best wishes, sian x

Thanks for your help everyone :]

Just make sure your both going at the same pace,