Love or Lust

Which is better?

Love can last forever.

Lust is just in the moment.

Love is better,it's more deep and sincere.

Lust is a pack of lies and a bunch of illusions that will pass.

Both have their places. But lust leaves you always still lusting, whereas love is nourishment and happiness and peace.

I agree that in a relationship you need both.
Because i think love and lust come in a package together.

But technically Lust come first, so in that case wouldnt it be better

No?

A Short List of Newer Things that are Better than their Predecessors:

Modern medical equipment
Kayaks
Passenger airplanes
Electric washing machines
Battlestar Galactica (2004)

... anyone care to continue? What came first has nothing to do with it.

I think your going off the point here. Lust has to come first, cause if you see a girl/ man at a party and u think to yourself they're very good looking i wish i could be with them.LUST..

and then you go over and chat ....after 3weeks your boyfriend/girlfriend.....after 4 years you love each other....LOVE

So Technically Lust Comes First in all LOVE cases.

But some people don't even experience the LOVE part. Some people just go after someone just because they're good looking and want something from them. Once they get it, their feelings don't go beyond lust.

Hmm, well even though lust comes before love it doesn't make it better than love in my eyes.

In some cases, you might not experience the lust part to start a relationship. Like when friends become lovers.

Ah but because Lust comes first doesnt it have to be better than love

I'm fine with lust coming first, though I don't believe that happens in all cases. I'm with a guy that I had been good friends with first, and loved him in that way. Later came all the other aspects. But even if it always does come first, how does that make it better?

Just because something comes first doesn't make it better. You don't neccesarily need lust to love someone. You love your parents once you were born. You don't NEED lust for love to happen. Love happens on its own. Love conquers all...

So, your pretty much saying slavery is better than freedom since slavery came first and slavery had to happen for freedom to occur? or...playstation is better than playstation 3? lol Order doesn't matter...

Your completelty going off the subject. Lust isnt the exact opposite of love. I would never insist that slavery is better freedom. Freedom overcame slavery, sure look at us on this site, we have the freedom to write more or less, what we desire. Lust only ever comes into play when u desire to be with someone that u are sexually attracted to, not your parents. thats in a different category of love like maternal and parental.

"Just because something comes first doesn't make it better." well it does because child birth is the first part of life, and if you think that isnt better, you wouldnt be alive

I didn't know that we were ONLY talking about sexual relationships. I thought just in general...

I know I was going off topic but I was trying to prove a point that not everything that comes first is better. And now your going off topic and also trying to point out that something comes first is better.

I don't even get why we have to compare because you obviously think lust is better, that's your opinion. I don't understand what you're trying to get at...

You can't change my opinon, I still think love is BETTER just because of the simple fact that love can cure so many things and without love you wouldn't even want to live. That's where my thoughts are at, not the fact that lust is first. I'm not thinking about who came first, I'm thinking of their value.

Wouldn't it suck if you had no lust for the person you love? ^_^

I believe both are equally important, in their own different ways.

I didn't say lust came before love, I said they were both important. And if it's an older couple, it's quite common not to have sex. What I meant was it would suck if I got married, say at twenty years old, and loved my partner so much, but had no lust, and no sexual attraction to them. I suppose I was just trying to be funny. I was never good at that. ;)

No, you bring up a good point because I think to be with someone you have to be attracted to them in some way. Either looks or personality..or whatever!

I actually think love is better. and for the reply message for"rubberlips"
"actually I know a few people who are married and don't have sex" then it wouldnt be a sexual relatonship. i enjoy lust, but love has an air about it

The only people wo say sex is overrated are the people not getting it. but agree with u love is better than lust, but at the same time in certain relationships lust is as important,maybe not in the case u are talking about.

"The only people who say sex is overrated are the people not getting it."

"getting it" isn't important to everyone, everyone has a different drive.

Both are important, but lust, to me is more selfish, hopefully it turns more passionate.

I think lust is the wrong word to use when talking about someone you love. As the person above me has said, lust is selfish. Love is never selfish, I don't think the words should be used together.

"I think lust is the wrong word to use when talking about someone you love."

^ I wholeheartedly agree.

For me I think of it as a progression Britt, when you first meet and spark, that is lust, you are trying to satisfy a need this person has brought out in you, then it turns to passion, where you wish to satisfy them and then hopefully love comes into play and you satisfy each other.

"why does everything have to be associated with a sexual attraction"

I don't think it does, you can lust for things in a non sexual way.

For rubberlips, this is the definition of lust

1. intense sexual desire or appetite.
2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness. (thanks britt)

sp lust has to be sexual attraction related, but i agree sole;y with britts lst comment

You only took the first two in the definition, lust applies to things outside of sex.

Lust doesn't have to just apply to sexual attraction. Humans desire many things outside of sex like the post before me said.

Lust is a broad term...

Love is better hands down

Love has always been better i think....