More different, then night & day.

My boyfriend & I are so different! I believe in this, he believes in that, I like this, he likes that. I come from a very well-handled family (for the most part) & he comes from a long distance, unconnected one. im all about my family. holidays, birthdays, every day life, he doesn't involve his family in anything. barely his father & we live with him.

the difference, doesn't bother me like it used to, in the beginning anyway. we have both changed sense. but, one thing that bothers me all the time, is who & how his exes were. sense he & I are so intensely different, I am nothing like his exes, or the others he has been with.

which just happen to be.. very slim & slender girls, who have the same interests in music, their lifestyles, their personalities.. I am NOTHING like any of them. & im not over reacting either. but his exes, I can't seem to get over, even though I try.

im not slim & slender, I have a body I do not proudly show off, or anything of the sort. I just don't see, why he chose me. when EVERY girl he has been with, are another him, & are skinny & such. he says it shouldn't matter, only what he thinks should. okay, fine. but what I think about myself, matters too, doesn't it?

I think to an extent, I am over reacting about his exes. & I should quit complaining & just accept he is with me & not them & that he chose me over them.. why is it so hard to do, what I know i should?

it just bothers me so much..

Yeah, I totally get how you feel. I'm sure a lot of people do...

I can't help comparing either but the difference between you and me is that I think I'm better than his exes lol but it bothers me because he brings up his exes sometime :/ and he even said I'm not the best looking one which kinda bothered me...

Anyways, what helps me is just not thinking about the past. And that he's not with his exes for a reason, it didn't work out for a reason and that he'll never be with those girls again. Being totally different isn't really a bad thing. Me and my bf are really really different too. Not even kidding, at first it bothered me too. I think it makes the relationship more exciting.

Well, your different than his exes which makes you unique. He probably thinks your personality is great and probably doesn't care what you look like. I think it'll take you some time to get over this but you just have to not think about it and don't ask your bf any questions about his exes. Just pretend your his first :P I hope that helped..a little lol

Well I know im better then them, like not in a stuckup selfish way. but because I am nothing like them. they were into drugs & sleeping around & just dirty/nasty girls all together.

him being with me, has made him a better parson, which he has said plenty of times.

all that bothers me is, I guess because he used to tell all the others that he loved them. I know & feel that he loves me, differently, if he even loved them at all.

& your right. that is a good way to think of it, me being his first & all. I like that lol.

The problem isn't his exes, it's your own insecurity. Be secure with who you are and what someone else looks like won't matter to you. Looks are not all that attract people.

^ I agree. It's not his exes or his past relationships that are the problem, it's your insecurity with who you are and in your own relationship.

Not every guy is solely concerned about how good you look, it's far more than just physical attraction and in some cases that non-physical attraction is very much more preferred.

Being different isn't always a "bad" thing. My partner, his opinions, beliefs, morals, interests and the like, are so much like mine--Yet!--completely his own, much like mine are completely my own. Just because some people have something in common doesn't mean that their relationship is any better than someone else' just because they are different. For some people it's better to be with someone who is different than you and for others it's better to be with others who have something in common with you. Do you understand what I mean? If you have something in common you're likely to want to do those things together. If you're always doing things together then what time does that leave for yourself? For some people; who spend so much time together and leave no time for themselves, that can actually hurt their relationship. Besides, people; their opinions, beliefs, interests and the like, are always constantly changing to some degree.

"he says it shouldn't matter, only what he thinks should. okay, fine. but what I think about myself, matters too, doesn't it?"

Of course, but if you continue to look at yourself negatively and project those same negative feelings and thoughts onto others as if they are their own (much like you are doing to your boyfriend; your insecurity is causing you to believe there is some underlined reason he is with you), it's going to affect your relationship (and not just this one) negatively as well.

I've always known it was the way I feel about myself. I don't blame his exes, I just over think things when it comes to who they are, & who I am.

I appreciate your advice & how you have opened my eyes to the fact that I need to think more positive of myself & not so negatively. it will make things much easier pn me & our relationship. thank you all :)

I've always known it was the way I feel about myself. I don't blame his exes, I just over think things when it comes to who they are, & who I am.

I appreciate your advice & how you have opened my eyes to the fact that I need to think more positive of myself & not so negatively. it will make things much easier pn me & our relationship. thank you all :)

I've always known it was the way I feel about myself. I don't blame his exes, I just over think things when it comes to who they are, & who I am.

I appreciate your advice & how you have opened my eyes to the fact that I need to think more positive of myself & not so negatively. it will make things much easier pn me & our relationship. thank you all :)

I've always known it was the way I feel about myself. I don't blame his exes, I just over think things when it comes to who they are, & who I am.

I appreciate your advice & how you have opened my eyes to the fact that I need to think more positive of myself & not so negatively. it will make things much easier pn me & our relationship. thank you all :)