HELP...

I decided to go see my Ex, who i was with for three years... when I was there he had to go out for supper with family so i stayed at his house... I couldnt help but look around... i found letters from his Ex... i couldnt help but read them... when I did i layed on the floor and cryed like a baby... I didnt say anything when he came home... when he came home... we went to bed and i didnt say anything...tonight when we started talkin it slipt out... we got in a huge yellin match... both ending up in tears... i now have no idea what i should do... he let me look at his online journal... he thought that he was helping me... but all it did was hurt me....I am now totally torn... what should I do? i cant just walk away... Ive tryed, all i did was hurt me more... could someone help me....

Xox Sherrie

the online journal was about his life... things i never knew about... the letters were from October and were basiclly written porn...thanks for tryin to help hunn...

Firstly, you betrayed his trust by going through his stuff, which isn't that clever is it? (Be honest with yourself.)

What happens with other people when you are not together is none of our collective businesses. More than half the time it's not even worth knowing. Concentrate on what you've got, not what he had with someone else.

(Watch Chasing Amy, it's a perfect example.)

But.... If he want s me why would he keep letters from someone else... am i not good enuff for him? i know i shouldnt have read them but i couldnt help it... i think it will help me move on....thanks tho...Xox Sherrie

Heh, he keeps the letters because they are part of HIS past, not YOURS. He is entitled to keep them and reminisce. It doesn't mean he feels any less for you.

We all have a past, we all have our secrets. They are nothing to do with current relationships.

you dont understand... these were like written porn... he clams she was the biggest mistake... i disagree... and am worryed that he will say the same about me... AND I know he would kill if i had the same type of letters... and these letters were from OCTOBER... we were togerther for the last three years hun....

Xox Sherrie

you dont understand... these were like written porn... he clams she was the biggest mistake... i disagree... and am worryed that he will say the same about me... AND I know he would kill if i had the same type of letters... and these letters were from OCTOBER... we were togerther for the last three years hun....

Xox Sherrie

Sorry I posted twice...

If you were together in october then be as mad as you like and leave.

If you weren't together when the letters were written then you still have no right to object. Porn or not, you were doing your thig, he was doing his.