The right music?

Coldplay- cool and calming!

Tell ya what... depends on your taste, but some nice classic jazz with some saxophone or light piano can heat things up yet not interfere with the mood.

I generally find the voice of Eva Cassidy to be damn good for this.

But if you're more into the newer stuff or rock, Staind has some great songs. Kenny G is an amazing sax player, too.

Just find out what kind of music she digs and find something that falls in line with that.

-JP