I NEED HELP CAN ANYONE HELP ME?!?!?!?

My parents seperated and divorced when I was 10.

Just know it is nothing you have done. It's completely their doing, not yours.

pm if you want to talk.

It's really important to ask yourself why you want your parents together.

Do you want them together if they are both suffering?

Would you rather have them apart and happy than together and miserable?

Would you rather listen to the fighting or have them divorced?

Is it selfish of you to want them together when it makes everyone unhappy, even ultimately yourself?

My parents are in the middle of a 2 year long divorce, and it's about time. I wanted my family to stop suffering, I wanted both my parents to be happy with other people, and I discovered it was the best thing for all of us.

Think about it... But it has nothing to do with their love for you, and you did nothing wrong.

If you need to talk, you can PM me, but your parents getting divorced may be a blessing in disguise if they do follow through with it.

It's sad that you are having to be the mature one in the sitiuation and are suffering because the people around you cannot see the facts.

Why is your dad unwilling to go to counceling AND unwilling to divorce? If he is going to be with your mom he should at least try to make things better.

Tell him you are suffering more seeing them fight and knowing they dont want to be together than you would if they were apart and happy, maybe tell your dad YOU want to go to counceling with him, or family counceling.

You want what is best for them and for the family as a whole- something has to change, because right now everyone is unhappy.

If you keep doing what you have always done, you will continue to manifest the same result- meaning that proactive action must be taken to remedy the situation, whether that be therapy or official seperation.

Just keep your head up- this isnt about you. Try to live your own life with your friends and school and understand that this only has to affect you as much as you let it.

Divorce (or potential divorce) is hard, I know.

this can be resolved.

i know u guys are having a difficult time right now... u have to gel the family together.... if it comes to divorce....it will only take a certian amount of time till u start wanting and wishing that they were together again...i know deep down u want him to stay and resolve this?
in my own opinion...its not a matter of choosing...''be hurt or... let them divorse'' theres always another option...if thry dont want to split...and i hope they dont..then the next step is to talk it through..not yell it thru..and it probably always comes to fighting...but...thats when u need a mediator...try to pursuade them both to get counselling....and in ur dads case....tell him so..not that he is doing somthing wrong..but...simply to stop the fighting...and to gel the family back together......make them realise that its hurting and tearing the family apart...anbd make them realise they have to do somthing about it...and its better to the save marraige then to go their seperate ways ...and the latter is not truly resolving anything...so please be strong and stay positive