Confusion

Why do many people assume that just because a person doesn't self-harm, it makes them stronger then those who do?

Thats actually a good question. I would like to know the same.

I was going to try to give my own explanation... but this same question baffles me as well. Someone who doesn't self-harm needs to answer this question... so I am of no help. =D

For the record, I don't think that those who self-harm are weak. I don't see how cutting yourself makes you weak. But I actually sort of understand why those who don't self-harm will consider those who do cut as someone who is weak. Obviously, those who don't self-harm have a different way of coping with things that bother them... so they may think that cutting shows that you are weak.

Okay... I just confused myself actually. I'm sorry if the above paragraph doesn't make sense.

SOMEONE ANSWER THIS QUESTION!!! I'M CURIOUS TO UNDERSTAND AS WELL!!!

**This is a great question... so if only people can answer without being offensive towards those who self-harm AND those who don't self-harm... let's make this thread a good one!!!**

Anxious for a reply ~ Tina

Ok, I will be nice :-)
I think cutters may be weaker in a way or another because they resort to harming themselves to deal with their problems. There are better ways, like listening to music, than succuming to the trend of 'cutting'. They deal with their problems in the wrong way, and the easiest way, too. They want to get rid of their pain because they cannot handle it, so they give themselves strong physical pain instead.
I think cutting is not necesserily weak, but stupid and addictive.

this is a really good qn!
i agree with the above post and can also c how ppl may think that people who cut are weaker than those who dont. i am a 'cutter' (sorry bout the label) and i guess people c us to be weaker because we have to take our pain out on something, we cant just handle things like some people can.
i hope all of this is making sence, sorry if its not

sorry if anyone takes what i have said offencivly, i dont mean to be this is just what i think

please post more answers to this question i'm really curious now as well