Help!!! I'm sick of my sister!

My sister and I used to be really close. She's a year and a half older. But lately, she's just been , like... i dunno, annoying and ignorant! All she is into is herself and the guy she likes! She doesn't care about anyone else! All she does is put time into her friends and that guy, she doesn't do anything that needs to be done like take care of our little brother or chores, i do it all! What really drives me crazy is today (mothers day) she didn't get/ make anything for my mom! She even had a friend spend the night last night! She did that on my moms b-0day too, while me and my little brother spent our money and decorated the house, she was just hanging out with her friend then signed the card. I am so annoyed with her! She even told that guy 2 of my big secrets and he made fun of me and she doesn't see the problem? What do i do? I am going to explode! She's annoying and so ignorant!

what you need to do first is find out a way to get her to sit down and talk to you. put a note on her door or on the phone if she's always on the phone w/ her guy...or put it on the computer, or email her. something to get her attention and write on it "hey, can we talk?" once you finally get her ALONE to talk, tell her exactly what you feel. try not to be insulting so she wont get defensive...try to be nice about it, but make sure she knows you're serious. try to make her feel how you feel when she does those things. you might even want to bring your brother into it if he's of age..i dunno how old he is. tell her it hurt you when she told your secrets and that you've been and will be her sister forever but that guy could be there only a few months. her priorities are obviously out of order... all you really need to do is tell her how you feel, if she cooperates, then good, if not, its her loss. your mom can always help with this too, because i'm sure she's noticed your sister's disconnection from the family.

I'm telling you, it's a phase. Sisters... well, they are temperamental. Mine is such a little snob right now, then she turns into a sweetie in two seconds flat. I'd try telling her how you feel, but if that doesn't work out, wait. This too shall pass.

Thanks guys! Okay, what happened was, i tried smoking weed and i blacked out! It was so scary! I didn't want anyone to know but she came up there and i told her because it was obvious that i had smoked then she told the guy (he lives across the street) and the next day, when i walked outside, he said "pot head!" this guy is 23! Shouldn't he know better? i feel what happened is serious and i shouldn't be made fun of! But i looked at her and she was just smiling! Shouldn't she know not to tell something like that? But her defense was "well, you told the boys who i liked!" My sister is so hard headed and does not back down even when she knows she's wrong! Thanks for all your advise! I will definatly have to talk to her!

hey Lizzy.. my sister is going through a time when she is arrogant.. self centered and cutting herself... :P i know nothing with family is easy.... but i say.. go to your mother and tell her that ur sister isn't doing chores and to prove it make her stop the rest of ur siblings (minus ur sister) doing any housework.. (minus maybe the dishes).. and see what happens

That's life....Get over it.

When your sister's bf breaks her heart, be there for her. She is just going through a time in her life where she wants to feel accepted, but doesn't want to do any work. Her bf makes her feel wanted in perhaps a bad way, so just love and respect her until she needs you. If she is so wrapped up in her bf when he breaks her heart she's really going to be hurt. She may not take advise very well since you are younger, so it is best just to be there for her from a distance. Let her know you love and respect her as her younger sibling.
~anne~

Natalie84.. the point of this forum was that someone didn't know what to do.. so i think u can shove it and get over ur own selfish needs (or wants) and get a life

Okay ladies Natalie and the above relax - take your words elsewhere is neither of you have anything constructive to write...

However I agree with Nat, but will communicate my point differently and hopefully, more effectively. Hun there comes a time we all grow up and our priorities change, Im sure your sis doesn't mean to hurt you, her life and her situation is just changing and unfortunatley it no longer includes a lot of you. Best thing to do is realise in a year and half you'll be the same when you grow up and your life changes along with your priorities, maybe then you will understand. But until then the best thing you can do is get on with your own life, still be there for her but learn to survive without having her at your beck and call :o)