My friend needs your help!!!

Sent to me on my advice page!

"Rape or not?
Ok so me and this guy were fooling around and he wanted to have sex and i said no but he put it in anyways and i just let it happen. Was i raped or not? I told him no, but then i didnt really stop him after it happened...and now i might be pregnant?! what do i do?! im only 14!"

I think it is concidered rape, but i'm not sure, i dont know all the legal part..
Do you guys have any good adivce i could give??

yes it is rape!!! go to the police!!!!

see but i thought it WAS rape if she said no..
See i dont know this girl, and she doesnt know me. It was posted on my advice common that i have, and i wish i could have given better advice, here check it out

http://advicenators.com/column.php?u=Sweetpmb9008

Rape is not only defined by law.

if she feels violated, disgraced, low, wronged, of course she was effing raped.

However this isn't going to work in court. the guy might not even know that he raped her in the manner that it was performed. My advice is to tell the police and have a meeting with both families to make sure it doesn't happen again, but odds are he doesn't know what he did, he's not going to jail.

Alright Nada, no offence you need to stop entering rape discussions because you obviously know absolutly nothing about it.

My advice: study phsycology, effects of sexual assault, causes, cases, and victim analysis before talking.

Thank you.

yes it is rape i know someone who was in the same situation, she said no but didn't put up a fight and she did go to the authorities and it was proven rape, no matter what if you say no then you mean NO, and you need to let someone know that this happened.

Hope all goes well

The reason why i posted for advice here, was becuase i wasnt sure what i was telling her was correct. I wanted to make sure i wasnt telling her the wrong stuff. But clearly there is mixed emotions here.
From what i heard. If you said no, it is considered rape. You could even be raped by your own husband/wife. If you said no, and they went agiasnt your will, thats rape.
Now i'm not sure that it will get anywhere in court for her tho, becuase the guy could easly make up stories.

Well, ok, the thing is you need to describe the whole event word for word.
This is why I think the guy might not know what he did: If she said no once, and not in a firm, desperate, or terrified manner, he could think that she meant no at first but then he changed her mind and she actually enjoyed it. Especially if she didn't fight back.

this is why I think they need to have a meeting with both families, discuss what he did, make it CLEAR to him what he did so he would never do it again, and move on.
I know it's not as simple as "move on" but I think in this case the girl can eventually recover from this particular event.

She said no. End of story.

Nada, corresponding with merely a few types of rapists and victims is clearly not going to inhance your information on it.
Perhaps you will gain some light in it, but based on your theory of it "always being the girl's damn fault" I hardly doubt it.
Not to mention you cannot interview every different category of victim and rapist.

But I appreciate your enthusiasm and desire to learn more on the subject based on my account (I believe).

Violax: don't say that unless we know the circumstance. I hardly ever think a girl when raped is a moron, even when they do the most pathetically idiotic things in the situation.

not to mention we don't have enough detail on the story.