My friend is pregnant...AGAIN!!!

My friend is only 16 and she is pregnant for the 4th time. She already has 2 kids (she did have a misscarradge)and she isn't with the father of any of her kids. I kno what she is doing is bad and stuff...but she still wants me to stay by her side and tell her everythings going to work out...when I know its not. What advice should I tell her so that she might stop getting pregnant because she can't even handle the kids she already has.

Well obviously if she can't handle the children she already has, she needs to give them up, and the one on the way.
That's not just best for her but the kids

And you need to stop telling her it's going to work out. It is partly the friend's fault when they give false hopes. If you don't tell her what an incredibly ignorant, stupid slut she is (don't have to use those exact words...) she's going to keep making those same pathetic decisions.

And don't dump thd kids on the parents. Who knows what kinds of people they are, but it was the girl's choice to have sex, so it's her responsibility to do whatever she's going to do with them.

Lately I have been saying "What is the matter with you?!" and such...but she tells me that either I just keep supporting her or she doesn't want to be my friend...so I gave her time to cool down...so I havn't talked to her in a few days...but when I do I will suggest to her that she have her kids adopted...or atleast the one she's about to have.

Tell her to consult her pharmacist or dr, she'll probably will be told to take 0.4mg folic acid tablets for the 1st trimester (12 weeks or so).
eat healthy food! fruit an veg, lean meat fish, oh an iron containin foods like bran flakes, green veg an beans etc, an plenty of vitamin C as that helps absorption of iron. stop smoking if she does that is.

and in future if she doesnt want unwanted pregnancies, she may want to consider the little thing called contraception...you know ?condoms...they're around 95% effective if used properly. Also emergancy contraception if she wishes for it given as a pill.

Sounds like a little hooker to me...

I don't know if she'll want mt posting this but...at one point she waz a hooker...well her and anotha 1 of her friends...but she said she just did it for the money and she said that she stopped a while ago...so I bet thats just what happened. I told her it could.

''...but she said she just did it for the money''

why else do hookers do it ? do they do it for some other reason that we dont know of ?

dont answer that.

I actually know some girls who LIKE the validation of stripping and prostituting themselves, the money is just a side benefit.

Anyway, birth control is free at planned parenthood. What about her getting an abortion? Where in the hell are this girls' parents?

Why is abortion out of the question?

I'm neutral with abortion, but I do think "the right to choose" is a pathetic excuse considering it was also your choice to have sex.
however when there is rape involved, that's another story. (which is why it's so touchy)

I think she could consider abortion becaus that bab,y being brought into the world now with her state of life, even if it is adopted, isn't going to have the best future.

I know she was a whore and sex numerous times, willingly.
the rape issue was about abortion in general.

I think that abortion could be the right path to take in this considering the child's future.
Imagine if she didn't give up the child, what kind of life would it have living with a mother like that? not to mention probably following in the mother's footsteps, or getting into the same kind of trouble.
and the child could be adopted, but often adopted children end up in abusive and unstable homes (though I know the outcome for many is different)

She should definetly give it up rather than abortion, but I'm just saying it isn't completly out of the question.

I dont believe abortion is killing, so I have a whole different perspective.

Tell her to just watch out, life isnt always going to help her, and it will be hard on her own. But if you are a good enough friend, you will stand by her side through thick and thin.
Put yourself in her shoes, you are having your 3rd child and had no boyfriend, and you need support. Support is what you need in life.. and if you dont have that.. what do you have?!
Stand by her hun!
Hayley-Ree xxx

Or, turn your back on her. At least she'll learn to say no once in a while. The condomn is an ingenious invention. I think she needs educating. If u cant handle the time, dont do the crime.

She did use the condom but they are not always 100% effective. And She stopped being a hooker (as far as I know) before she had any of her children. I talked to her last night and I told her that I would always be there for her...but that I think it was a stupid thing she did by getting pregnant. I told her that I think she should put up her kids for adoption and she told me she was actually thinking about that but that she just couldn't do that to her kids.

do that TO her kids? or do that FOR her kids...

Christina.. i dont know how old her kids are. But like i said before, put yourself in her shoes, she has cared for and loved them for however many years/months. How on earth can you give YOUR children up for adoption after that?!
She has cared for them this far, why stop now?!
Hayley-Ree xxx

because she's obviously not doing a very good job, or capable of being a mother for that matter, if she's pregnant...yet again.
If she really cared for and loved them, she would give them to a better home.

what if she has a good home?! What if she has quite a bit of money?! You dont know.. she might have all the money she needs. You shouldnt judge someone, on what someone else has said.
Hayley-Ree xxx

hahah who said I was basing anything on money?
motherhood is based on a hell of a lot more than just money, and this girl obviously doesn't have what it takes if she's screwing up her life so bad.

and I would think it the other way around: you shouldn't judge someone based on their wealth. It's pretty obvious the kind of trouble this girl gets into, regardless of the amount of cash she has.

not to mention, if she's hooking, she most likely doesn't have much.

lol and what chance is that nada?

but then she wouldn't need the money, she would just be a slut

Yea, but it's most likely not the circumstance here
not to mention her sex life shouldn't effect her kids or her decision on whether or not to keep them

(btw, don't worry I wasn't taking that seriously lol *no sarcasm buttons online)

just tell her how you feel about the situation and hopefully it will work out.

question......did she get pregnant WHLE being a hooker or cause of "something else"??
Also are her kids right now healthy?? maybe her mother or someone close can help take care of them 4 a while....
did she end up dropping out?
anyways I'm TOTALLY against abortion if u wouldn''t kill sum1 cuz they annoy u then u wouldn't kill ur baby cuz dey like ""annoy"" u.....

Crazie: you are crazie

We've already established that she got pregnant while hooking.
Don't even think of dumping the kids on her parents. She got herself pregnant, numerous times, it's her responsibility to take care of them or give them away.
We've already established the kids most likely don't have the best environment considering their mother is pregnant...again.
Abortion has absolutly nothing to do with annoyance.

lol....

Her kids...(all 2 of them...so far) are healthy...and as far as I know she did not get pregnant while hooking. She claimes it was with her bf.