i need a little help....

ok i want to know what yall think i should do....

ok well im going to be having a birthday party in 7 days....and im wondering whether or not i should invite my ex....

i still have feelings for him...i love him to death...but im not sure that he feels the same...i told him a while ago that i still had feelings for him and he kinda weirded out...so i dont know if he has feelings too and he is just nervous or what....cause when i talked to him on the internet after i told him he acted weird....but when i went to see him and his band play....he gave me a hug and was playing with my hair and stuff....so idk how he feels....its a mixture..

and also my friends hate him (friends that would be at the party)....

so between the whole not knowing how he feels about me and my friends not liking him i dont know if i should invite him....but i really want him to go...

what should i do?

anyone?? yes...no...maybe so??

well, this is a tough one

for your sake, you have two choices. obviously. If you invite him and he doesnt like you, nothing really to lose right? your either freinds or not and if your friends you could be inviting him as a friend. If your not friends, you could be opening up room for a friendship...or a relationship =p

for your freinds sake, you need to find out why they hate him. find out if its a valid reason and if so decide wether you should invite him based on that validation. am I making sense?

yea u are.....i know why they hate him....cause they "dont like the way he treated me".....but there was only one time he treated me bad....so i dont think its a valid reason....

but see even if he does like me as friends or more or whatever..and does want to come...he may not because he knows my friends will be there...he knows that they hate him too.....so idk

well I guess the only thing you can do is try.

invite him and hope that he comes. If he doesnt, atleast you showed him you still wanted something with him. and then everything would be on him to make something happen between you two.

If you are absolutely sure it was only once that he hurt you...and your positive he won't do it again...then give it a shot. your friends have no say in your love life if you don't want them to.

this isnt hard! its a party right?! does it matter if he has feelings for you?! invite him gurl... a party is a great time to use your flirting techniques ;)
Good Luck Sweetie!!
Hayley-Ree xxxx
(sorry if the first bit sounded mean :P)

and see something that makes me think he may still have feelings and just be scared of what could happen....is like i said earlier that he still gives me hugs and plays with my hair.....but like when i went to see him and his band....and he came to talk to me and my mom he didnt really talk he just kinda stood there and then left.....and then after the show i was talking to the other guys in the band and all of a sudden he came out of no where....like he wasnt anywhere in sight and BAM he shows up and is playing with my hair and talking....and so i think its jealousy cause i was talking to other guys.....so wouldnt that kinda seem that theres some kind of feelings? if theres jealousy like that.

btw... does it matter bout your friends?! Its your party! find out why they dont like him too xxx

yea i think i may just go for it....the worst he can do is say no...

EXACTLY!!! :P

exactly.

I guess thats what I was trying to say all along.

lol! wow quick replies

lol

lol yea

would emailing him and asking him be a bad thing?

nope, don't think so.

or, if you see him in school or something, just slip it in a casual conversation.

ask him with a party invite or to his face! maybe when hes 'playing with your hair' just pop it in a convo :P hehe thats what id do :P xxx

well school is out....

and im just calling people to invite...not with invitations....

lol and nah he wont be playing with my hair for a while....his band isnt playing again for a while...

see origianally i was gonna have a party and have his band play and just have a big concert and stuff.....but i didnt start planning enough in advance....and now their main guitarist is leaving anways....but yea.....

ill either call him or email him i guess

well since phone and e-mail are your only options, either one will do i guess.

lol yea i guess so

thanks guys!! im gonna go email him now...and if he doesnt reply soon...ill call him

no problem cb...and good luck.

no problem! good luck! use your flirtatiousness (lol if thats a word LOL)

i did it....now i just have to wait....

thanks again for yalls help!! =)

no i know why my friends hate him....but its not a good enough reason.....they "dont like the way he treated me" but he never treated me bad....there was basically only one thing he ever did...but it wasnt treating me bad it was just him being dumb....so yea i dont except there hating him...its not a good enough reason

i have been taking it slow.....ive waited 2 years to even tell him that i still have feelings for him....thats pretty slow....

CB... i have recently done something i said i would NEVER do... ive fallen out with a friend over a boy. But she wants him back. But anyway! DONT fall out with your friends because of him.
ANYWAY (lol) my ex treated me bad, and i have only recently realised it (2months later) and no one liked him, coz they didnt like the way he treated me. But i was blinded by love...
Maybe its the same for you
xxxx

no i Know he never treated me bad....we never had a fight, he never abused me emotionally or physically, he never did anything to harm me....there was only ONE thing that was emotionally hard on me....but they hated him before that even happened.....

my mom loves the kid too....and me and her know him better than anyone else...so does that def. says something doesnt it??

yeah it does! your friends shouldnt hate someone for no reason! But hate makes you better yourself! remember that xxx