Another ? for you peeps

i'm sure its not unusual, but i need advice...things sorta carried away with my EX, i mean ,...it wasnt intercourse just somethin else, so...i'm scared our relationship is going to be ruined...is there suggestions to ...ya know..fix these thigns?

I find that girls that want to hold out have a greater passion for the relationship.
It gives a good sense of security if you think of it from the right view point..
In you case, it can go a two ways..

The girl isnt in love, but was or previous has lead a guy into sex or w/e you have done, because she desired it (love or not)

The girl is in love, and she felt as if she wanted to possibly go along with it to see if it helps her grow stronger inside..

You better hope for the second one, I hate being harsh but truth is truth..
Personally I whouldnt have a girl that 'leads on'.
Usually this happens in phone covo's she may mention something about sex and then mingle it in with your own relationship..

But anyways, as far as turning it around..
Some girls are smarter on others with this subject..
You will either hurt her feelings and make her feel un-needed.
Or you will make her confidence within you go up.

Usually its the first one..
But if you feel it needs to be done then do it.
Get her alone and talk to her, explain how much you care about her or love if you feel it for her..
Then slowly change it to wanting to ease off of what you have been doing.
Tell her you feel as if the relationship is being side tracked from what you want it to be.
Say that you want to focus on building a relationship the way you think it should be.
Not the way everyone else seems to be doing it.
Possibly because those always seem to fall apart.
Or the partners do not seem to care about each other that much..

Anyways these are just some examples, do not take the words out of my mouth.
Use you own words, thats the only way..
You need to express how you feel honestly.
And if she doesnt respect that, then she was never worth being with.
It whould just get worse down the road as she starts to disrespect you.
If she doesnt judge you, and truthfully agrees with you.
She might be the one for you..

Wow...thanks ATUN for that post, its a tun of things i needed to hear and i'm sure its going to help me, i'm going to hang with her again sometime next week before school starts to talk about all of this, because even after all the love she expressed last nite, we're still not together, and i dunno why i was waiting for her to ask to get back because she broke it off, i dunno but thanks for the advice!! i have a feeling it'll come in handy! thanks a tun!!

no i have none but i hope it works out for you