A complex Situation, Advice would help...

hey, I could really use some advice on how to handle the last situation I have gotten myself into....here's the story...

About a year ago I met a guy named Jeremy, and we instantly became friends. About 6 months ago I realized that I liked him as more than a friend, but never did anything about it because he was always in a relationship.

Since August we have been getting really close, and when school started in September we got even closer. We share a locker at school, we go out of our way to talk to each other, and I spoil him like you wouldn't beleive...for example one day he asked me if I had food in my locker, but I didn't....That weekend, I went shopping to buy food to put in my locker for him...

Anyways...he's in a relationship right now, but he's not happy. He's told me that so many times, and he's told my really good friends. Two weeks ago he told my friend Kayla that he likes me, and that he was going to break up with Jessica and eventually go out with me. (that was the night he took my class ring, Big statement, Huh? well around here it is) Well, it's two weeks and he's still with Jessica.

We're still really close, but it's weird. I don't know how to react when he pokes me in the stomach, or looks at me in ways you just don't look at your friend. There's a little part of me that wants to talk to him about how he feels, but i don't know how. I want him to break up with Jessica, when he wants, not when I want. It's hard to deal with it. I have liked him for so long and I am begining to wonder if the relationship that might happen in the future is even worth the effort I am putting into it now. I mean, he obviously don't like me enough to get out of his current relationship...so it makes me wonder if he actually likes me, or if he just wants my body...

I don't know what to do anymore....I am sooo confused, Please Help me out! I would really appreciate it!

First of all, talk to the guy. Get him alone for long enough to tell him everything you just told everyone here.

Second, if he does just want you for your body, drop him. Drop him hard and fast. Guys like that don't deserve to breed.

Thirdly, if he does like you for you, and you do get with him, make sure you always keep the lines of communication open. Communication is one of the cornerstones of any relationship.

Timothy Bledsoe

"Second, if he does just want you for your body, drop him. Drop him hard and fast. Guys like that don't deserve to breed."

Timothy, that is so true. I just don't think I've ever heard a guy admit it.

Anyways, if he really truly liked you, I think he would have broken up with this Jessica girl by now. I kind of get the feeling he says he's unhappy just for attention. Personally, I wouldn't waste my time on him.
Either way, good luck.

Wondering and knowing is two different things; therefore, the only person that can clear up your confusion is him.

The common cliche' for this situation is anything worth having is worth waiting for, but Snicker's says, "hungry, why wait." So what I'm telling you is after you hear his side of the story, you can make a decision.

Sidenote: Most men (not all) will use a girl when they know she likes them. Cliche': They want their cake and ice cream, too. If he can have your body, affection, and what ever else you are willing to give him, without a proper commitment, he will.
But there could be other reasons as well.
How long have he and his girlfriend been dating? Are they serious? Because he could really like you, but not know how to break up with his currrent lady.

You have to talk to him.

I agree with Timothy. Have you talked to him about your feelings? He may be scared to break up with his current girlfriend because he's afraid he'll be rejected by you. You need to open up to him and talk to him about all this. If you are as good of friends as you say you are, you should be able to talk to him. Sure, it may be a little uncomfortable for a while, but it may work out in your favor...

hey guys, this is lost and confused, sorry I chaged my name I didn't like lost and confused...so anyways

today at school Jeremy didn't even give me the time of day to even say hi to him. Even though I did catch him staring at me in history....but yeah he said a total of three words to me today, wonderful huh?

So at my volleyball game he talked to my best friend on my cell phone and told her that he doesn't like me as anything more than a friend...yet just a week ago he was telling his friends that he was going to break up with Jessica for me. I don't know I guess we're supposted to talk tomorrow...I have no clue what I am going to say, it's going to be so weird, but hey at least we're talking, right? As bad as it sounds I am about to say screw it, it's not worth the heart ache...'cause any guy that's worth it, won't break it right?

It's just so hard to have things come to this, because he means so much to me, and I am horrified that I am going to loose a really good friend. After all he was the first friend I made after leaving the town I grew up in. I hope that we're at least still friends after tomorrow..I guess I have to wait and see what happens...wish me luck...and thanks for all the good advice...it's helped a lot!

My love and thanks,
Czekalski