God I hate him

My step dad is such an a**hole. He hit me and now he wont let me see my boyfriend for a week. I can't even talk to him on the phone. How stupid is that. My mom actually snuck me out of the house last night so I could spend 2 hours with my boyfriend. God I hate him so much. Does anyone else have to go through this with their step parents???

no i don't personally but my best friend does, her step mom is insane and does things liek this and meaner and crazier i am sorry toj hear this, my best friend says it helps her to tlka to me about it , so if you want to tlka i am totally here to listen, i have a hard life to so i might be able to help, umm my e-mail and AIM names are in my profile so if you wnana talk go look , i am actaully signe don AIm now so yea

lots of love
☼*~*Becky*~*☼

Well at least you have a boyfriend,
My parents wont let me date and I probably wont be allowed till' I am like 30, now that sucks. My parents are way overprotective trust me, if you think you have problems try me.

This is what happened to me when i went 2 live with my father, except it was mi dad not step hu was doing it
he started hitting me and abusing me in other ways, and if mi bf rung me hed scream at him, swearing and shit, and once mi bf came ova nd he punched him!!!!
Talk about emberassing!!!
But then we got him arested and i moved back with Mum.
So mayby get him arrested lol
just tricking
ummm i dont no ae
sowi

Well me and my boyfriend already talked about getting him arrested since he's on probation now for getting a DUI we want to put beer cans all over his truck and all over the house but then my mom would want to move back to Chicago and I wouldn't be able to see my boyfriend. So yeah, I guess I just have to deal with it for the next 3 years. Now thats going to be fun. :(

Ashley, WHY did you get in trouble for a week???
My goodness, it's ONLY one week. Serve your time & learn from it.
Also, your mom shouldn't be sneaking you out to see your boyfriend if you aren't supposed to be seeing him. That is just wrong!! What kind of a wife is she???? Or mother for that matter? She is just teaching you that you don't have to listen to your step father... it's not a good thing she is doing. She should respect her husband and stand by what he says.
Sorry...that's my opinion.

OK first off I don't have to listen to that a**hole. He is not my father I have a damn father. If he wants respect from me try giving me some first. Ok and you think it was wrong of my mom to let me see my boyfriend. Well hmm lets see he hit her two nights ago because she didn't want to go to the store with him and then he hit me because I said no. Now you f**king tell me, is that a man that deserves any sort of respect?

O yeah and i got in trouble because I said NO. I didn't want to go to the store with him because I had to finish my homework. So did I deserve a smack and being grounded for a week. Hmmm I don't think so.

Ashley-
The first two lines of your response says A LOT about your maturity level. You sound like a 2 year old...

*whine* you're not my dad...blah blah blah. *whine*

He may not be your dad, but he IS the father figure in the house you live in. Therefore, you SHOULD be MADE to listen to him. Your mom is in the wrong here by not MAKING you listen to & respect him.
As far as him hitting you goes, I grew up with a step father ( whom I grew to love more than my real father) He once punched me in the jaw (yes, punched) But you know what?? I deserved it. I had been having the same attitude that you have right now. I was smarting off to him every time I got a chance, not listening to him (because he wasn't my dad) I was being a total baby & a brat. I was shocked that he would hit me & I was REALLY mad at him. However, I deserved everything I got & more. You know, people can only take SO MUCH!

Do you think it is easy being a step parent?? No it isn't! It's one of the hardest jobs in the world. Why don't you try giving him a break? You sit here telling us all about how he is acting toward you, but you fail to say how you treat him...oh wait... your first two lines told us that, didn't they?
Stop being a baby & grow up!
I'm sorry, I have no respect for children who treat ANY parent the way you are treating him.

"Do you think it is easy being a step parent?? ... Stop being a baby & grow up!"

So her step dad has a problem with alcohol and he has a habit of smacking the wife/mother around and he also smacks the step daughter.

And basically you are telling her to respect him and learn how to take a punch!

Sorry, but that's about the worst advice I've ever seen on here.

I don't have any magic solution for Ashley. But I personally avoided step-parent problems by choosing not to re-marry after I lost my husband when my kids were small. Not an easy choice but one I'm glad I made when I see posts like these.

Fine whatever I guess I will learn how to take a punch. Thanks for all the support I really appreciate it.

"Fucking grow up and deal little girl"
Ok excuse but you don't know me ok. I have four little brothers and when I was 10 fucking years old who did you think had to watch them when my mom went to work and my step dad went out to drink? Me! Who has to watch them when he goes and sleeps with his new girlfriend Lisa. Me! Don't tell me to grow up. I've had to be there for those kids since I was 10 years old. I could leave and go live with my Real dad but I can't leave my mom alone in this situation. All I wanted was a little support from some people. But whatever thanks for all the help.

ok when your 10 years old your still a kid yourself. If you had kids would you let your 10 year old daughter look over 4 little boys all of them still in diapers.

Lydia O- That is NOT what I was saying to Ashley. That's what YOU twisted it to say. I was suggesting she try to show him a bit of respect & stop being a baby and using the "you aren't my dad" thing. It is VERY childish. One can see by her response to me last time how she treats him. Even the best step parent is gonna snap after so long of a time of being disrespected this way. Her mother isn't helping matters much by sneaking behind his back & letting her see her boyfriend after he said she couldn't.
I just don't think we can blame this whole situation on the step father. I think they are all 3 in the wrong.
I started babysitting at age 10..I had plenty of jobs as well. It sounds like to me you are wanting some sympathy...you'll get none here..I looked after my siblings, cleaned the house, cooked the supper, washed the dishes, the whole works for years while my mother went to school & worked... it didn't hurt me at all.
I am not trying to argue with you, but what do you expect when you are disrespecting your step father as you do?

Me and him used to have a good relationship. Then he started drinking and hitting again. I used to have tons of respect for him. I really did. But then he changed and he lost my respect. I used to have a really good relationship with him. He messed that up not me. SO if you don't treat me with respect your definately not going to get any from me.

It just sounds like ALL of you are lacking respect for each other.

Tammy, I simply paraphrased what you said but I did not twist what you said at all. Words do have meanings and you ought to at least understand the meanings of your own words.

Ashley had clearly described circumstances of an alcoholic and abusive step-dad. She said that her step-dad had smacked both her mom and herself.

In your response you stated that you were punched in the jaw by your step-dad and that it was okay. Just what message did you intend to imply by this?

The advice you gave Ashley about respect would be fine in circumstances of a well functioning family. But you completely ignore the fact that this is a guy who deserves to be in jail for conduct like this. And yes, domestic violence not only wrong, it is a crime. Telling her to just accept it and stop complaining and respect this ogre is simply way off base.

Brandon, there are some things said that are so repugnant, revolting and stupid that they deserve no response. And that is the category into which your so-called advice falls.

Ashley, I am going to email you with some resources which I hope will be helpful. In the meantime please edit and clean up the language in your forum posts. Swearing here will subject you to being penalized or suspended.

And resist the temptation to do anything rash. There are legitimate sources of help for someone in your circumstances.

Thankyou for the support