HELP ME!!! Feeling so bad!

Okay I fell for someone 2 months ago and now they're gone and i'll never she them again. I can't cope with it and i can't deal with the pain.
what can i do?
please please help i'm so scared almost ready to resort
to self harm.
really apreciate ur words and stories,
sammi x

Gone as in....??

Self harm solves nothing, it won't bring this person back. Hard as it may be.

Sometimes when crap like this happens, there isn't much you can do but hold your head up high and let it go. It will take time (I know everyone says that... but it's true), but you can get through this.

firstly Jaime,
gone as in moved away like gone from my life i won't see them again and will never get to have the great convos we once had. I know cutting won't help it, so i probably won't cut but i do feel so miserable and i have been crying a lot. It will take a lot of time for me because i have let myself fall deeper than i should have. i know i can get through it but i'd prepher not to,
but thanks for your advice

sammi morris

finbar,

this situation is definately not easy. though i must apologize for being kind of sparing with details. This is mainly because I am concerned about who will read this.

Firstly, it is not a guy, a girl, i am gay and proud of it. she was never mine but i was happy to see her, now that i can't it has become really hard. when i see her such as yesterday i cry because i have to walk away. If i could see her i'd be fine. I also don't care who she is sleeping with i just want to see her!
I know i'm not meant to be with her and thats too much to ask, the problem is that i can't see her!

sammi

Heavysniper

you don't know what you are talking about, i am in love, time does not define the pain i should feel. I am hurt I can't deal with this. I miss her heaps already and it hasn't been that long. you don't know me don't tell me i won't miss someone I already miss.

sammi

Heavysniper,

Without love i am nothing, i grow from love. love defines me. She might as well be dead, if i don't see her. I didn't date her but that doesn't mean i don't love her. maybe if you lost your girlfriend you'd get over it but i care about this girl so so much. you can't say i shouldn't be upset over this when you get upset when you don't see your girl, thats hypocritical.
also you can't tell me how to feel, i'm going to feel like shit because i don't know what to do.
when i started this topic i didn't ask to be told how i should feel, i need to know how to cope your information is fairly usless.

sammi morris x

it is love, you do not know what i am feeling

and finbar i can't let it go thats the problem

sammi x

It's sad that some of the comments here are so disrespectful. :-(

For some situations there is just no easy fix. I presume that you could still communicate with her but I know that's not the same as having the kind of personal contact you had before. Years ago I went through a grievous loss when my husband was murdered. There were two books that helped me immensely during the worst of times. They were “When Bad Things Happen to Good People” by Harold Kushner and “How to Survive the Loss of a Love” by Peter McWilliams

Peter McWilliams was a wonderful, compassionate human being, and if it means anything, he was also gay. His book that I cited is now available for free because it has been published on the internet at:

http://www.mcwilliams.com/books/books/sur/srtoc.htm

The other book was written by a rabbi and is contains a lot of spiritual as well as practical help and advice.

Sorry for your loss and I do wish you well.

find someone else, it'll help majorly. You'll eventually fall for this someone else and forget about the one that left. Don't worry he's out there...

-♥-Anarchy-♥-

lydia,

thank you for your post. it was really positive and helpful. things are getting better. i still get to see her just not as much.

thank you for your help,
sammi

Gone??
Well, I have been in the same situation, but everything has turned out for the best in the long run!
I had a crush on a guy since I was like 5, lol sad I know, but he was an awesome guy. We were always friends and stuff, and no one ever knew how I felt. When we left primary schools we went our separate ways, and I was going to tell him how I felt, but I didn't :( For the next three years I had regretted my decision not to say anything, until this year..
My friend had met a guy on the net and stuff, they arranged to meet which was fine and all..they got together and it so happened that he went to the same high school as my crush for all those years!! I got him to ask him how he was and stuff, and we ended up starting to email and all. The week we started talking, we went to the movies for a catch up lol and about a week later I told him I had feelings for him too! I was soo scared and everything!! He said he was fine with it, and that, we ahve been together since! 6 months and counting!!
All I can say is, don't give up hope, that's what I nearly did. I'm so greatful I got the second chance to express me and how I felt towards my guy, he's the best thing that has come into my life :)
Goodluck, just don't give up xx

^^^wow thats a great story, i'll keep it in mind. thanks for telling it

sammi xxx

ok i have the same situation yes its hard and for me its still hard that we said goodbye forever but iam going to tell you something that has helped me over come this yes iam still hurt but not as much and iam looking towards the future and what life has in store for me this is what one of my homeboys told me whatever does not kill you only makes you stronger and that has helped me yes this saying maybe old but it has helped me and thats the truth and just keep your head up think positive dont let this put you down yes it hurts but sooner or later you are going to find out your strong and this wont bother you ok well wish you the best and just keep your head up ok

Everyone, heaps of thanks and kisses to you all, i am feeling heaps better now that i am over the shock! :) thank you all for being inspirational and willing to help.

sammi x