What do you think???

Ok well I live in Arizona and my dad lives in Illinois. I've decided not to go out there for Christmas because last year wasn't all that great. Now my grandmother is putting a complete guilt trip on me because I'm not going. Like telling me that my dad said " what kind of father am I" " I feel like I don't even know her anymore" And I mean that just makes me feel like crap. I love my family to death but anytime someone doesn't do what they want them to do they put a complete guilt trip on them.

Does anyone think thats wrong or am I just being selfish??

Yeah I did that and you know I even bought him a book that says "Why a girl needs her father" It was really cute and I mean I hate hurting him but I just didn't want to go.

SO I'm guessing everyone else thinks I'm selfish

no i don't think your selfish at all... it really is your decision and if its making you unhappy then fair enough that you don't want to go there

Yeah I agree with what everyone else has said and hey it might be nice to spend christmas at home this year, just go to your dads next year.

thanks everyone