brain cancer/tumor

my boyfriend just asked to break up with me but i didnt answer, after i talked with his best friends and they told me he just told them he may have to leave within the next 2 weeks to finiish his last year in high school overseas.
other than that, he just got out of hospital about two weeks ago from broken rib and collapsed lung, im worried about him, hes stayed in the hospital 3 times in the past 6 months now and he may have brain cancer or a tumour.
i feel like hes pushing me away, i know what hes trying to do but no matter what happens i'll always love him and i want to stay by his side no matter what. im not too sure what to do or how to deal with all this.

alwaysremeniceus

There should be absolutely no maybe's or might's in the medical diagnosis for brain cancer or tumors. With today's technology there are very few things left to guesswork or speculation.

they need to take a closer look at x ray?? i guess now i know why he's been acting so weird lately... but seriously, this is the 4th time his life may be in danger within the last 6 months...

i guess we're just different... i believe that we need to stick together, make the most out of everydai just incase somethings does happen, but he thinks pushing me away will make it hurt less and protect me.. possibly the both of us??

once he gets better and things start going back to normal, he ends up in the hospital again within a month x.x hes still doing therapy from the car crash too...

well... saw him earlier... just cried to see him.. not sure if he saw... was during our school concert... 3rd time he's been to our band concerts... it actually hurted... was so weird when our eyes met...
but.. his report is coming out tomorrow...

hope everything goes well?

hey
i no what he is feeling kinda...
and it is so much easier too push ppl way when your ill.. you think your helping them and stopping them from hurting.. but actually we are making it worse!
if hes got a brain tumor or cancer then he is dealing with it in his own way! the only way he knows how to deal with it!!
thing is ive been very ill and its been 5 yrs now since i had to have neuro surgery!
it was bloody hard and i pushed everyone way.. even my parents.. all my family... my best mate.. like i say everyone!!

it isnt easy to deal with having a illness and you may not survuve it.. i started to give up! i nearly didnt survuve but thank god that my best mate one day just came up to and threw her arms around me and wouldnt let go until i stopped the barriers and stopped pushing her away.. i broke down in tears.. and from that day i realised i need everyone..

but my point is u cant really help him or make him see that your hear for him if he doesnt want to see it for himself yet!!!
im lucky i guess i got well to the best i could and got myself to where i am today!!

but it isnt easy to let yourself admit your ill its easier to hide away not admit it..
i guess all you can do is tell him your here for him.. it might not seem like it means anything but believe me it will...

my ex bf found out i was ill and he done the same and now we are mates.. yeah sure my best mate truely was the one to get me through it and we did fall out for a whole yr and got back friend last yr itll be 2 yrs in feb! so you see yeah it was a hard time but thing is that ppl who arent ill dont really understand it sweet!!!

you kinda gotta let him do this himself,, if that is what he wants but let him know your always gonna be there for him..
like i say ive been there and done it!!
email me back if like an wel can chat some more..
xhx

well... they took a closer look at the x ray... and hes ok, thats what most important to me...

a doctor's one mistake... caused all this... a week of insomnia, a week of crying, a week of breaking down, a week of pain, and only pain... the thing is, i can't be physically there for him due to various reasons, sometimes i can... saw him wednesday... but all i could do was stare at him... was at another one of my band concerts, i have to admit i do love band concerts since he comes to watch every one of them...

but really, is it that great to see your boyfriend/girlfriend when they may have brain cancer? the same one you've been pushing away... he's only been pushing me away...
gosh... i miss him so much...
but right now... when i close my eyes, i can only see him in the theater after our preformance... his back, how skinny he is from before (from surgery, car accident, from stress, insomnia, from pushing me away?)... when he turned around and look back at me... i almost cried in front of his friends and all mine... cause all i saw in his eyes, was sadness, fear, and pain... all i could do was sit there and stare at his back, occasionally seeing him turn around...

im so scared, he's still pushing me away now... he won't talk to me... but he's ok, and i've been talking with his best friend's girlfriend... but its just so different... a week now... im finally breaking down... finally passed out...