How old is too old before it becomes abuse?

I don't believe in hitting children at all. But if you have to, I think that age to stop is 8 or 9 and after that its abuse.

Why is it abuse after a certain age??? I don't see the difference from hitting a toddler or a 16 year old.. Abuse is abuse.. There really isn't anything different about it.. No child deserves to be hit...There is different ways to punish your child without using your hand.. That is just my opinion you can agree or disagree

What makes something abuse though?
Because there is a fine line between abuse and discipline sometimes

*Don't get defensive on me I only said sometimes.....and other times there is a major difference with people kk

Um. Some people believe that Spanking and such fixes problems. But it does not. When I was little I remember getting hit with a wooden spoon everytime I said a word wrong. For example, If I mean't to say spoon, and I said moon, then I would get smacked. I got smacked so many times I eventually just stopped talking for a few months. The problem wasn't solved. I was just scared.

It doesn't solve anything, it is not discipline. It causes fear.

ok i know this from experience: kids that are spanked as punishment when they are little learn not to make the same mistakes, are more polite and better. there is no age limit my 20 married sister gets spanked(not hard) if she act like a bitch to my mom my 17 year old brother knows that if he crosses a line my mom will hit him for being a jerk.

i look at the people in my karate school the kids that are diciplined and the ones that arent. the ones that are behave better in class pay attention when i am trying to teach them and turn around and teach those younger then them the techneque.

the ones that arent are rude think they walk one water have no self control hurt others and igonre what i ask them to do until i tell them they will stay that rank until the listen then they halfass give me their attention.

I think I stopped getting the "wooden-spoon" treatment when I was about eight or nine. Because it caused so much psychological fear in me perhaps I am better behaved, but more than respecting my dad because he had the strength to do that, I just feared him. I only recently started to respect him anymore when I realized that my body is too developed for him to spank me...it would be almost a type of incest.
I used to hate him A LOT before, but now I am gradually learning to be friends with him.

My niece has never been spanked in her life, and she is an absolute horror. Right now, she is as spoilt as a three-year-old gets. I only hope that her parents give her the discipline that she so needs, whether by locking her in her room, taking away television privileges...it doesn't just take hitting.

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pshhhhhhhh i think we should bring back harder disipline, especially in schools i mean look at how children behave nowadays compared to back then. A little slap here or there won't go a miss (btw i am totally against actual abuse i.e. over excessive beating it's just wrong)
aaron

Being hit by your parents is absolutely horrible, I know this for a fact, I have been experiencing it for my whole 18 years of life....

I'm LostSoul, so as I said before.

Um. Some people believe that Spanking and such fixes problems. But it does not. When I was little I remember getting hit with a wooden spoon everytime I said a word wrong. I would get smacked. I got smacked so many times I eventually just stopped talking for a few months. The problem wasn't solved. I was just scared.

It doesn't solve anything, it is not discipline. It causes fear.