To all you young teenagers who are in love...

First thing, I do not want to sound mean or harsh or try to take away what is your choice. But I'm saying this because I don't want this modern world to collapse. According to some studies, this generation may be the first that does not have a higher living standard than their parents. Japan has practically beaten us in everything and other asian countries are catching up.

1. If you have a boyfriend, fine, but PLEASE put your goals, grades and dreams FIRST. That will determine your future life.

2. In love (or lust or whatever), Don't go overboard with it, there's a whole world out there that you may still meet somebody.

3. Don't just dream, act

4. Please do not do anything you may regret, think through carefully.

5. If that "other" person truly cares about you, he'll understand that your future career and dreams is important.

6. I don't mean you should give up your fun and freedom, but prioritize your stuff and look to the future!

i've never been in love before, because personally i feel like im way too young to know what "love" is, but this advice is really good and many people should take it.

Fisrt of all, great advice, but to tell you the truth I am in love and like I mean me and my boyfiend. well we know how our dreams and education, and so on are important. So we don't let our relationship affect our learning.He never lets me give up as well as me to him too! I really like the advice you're tryin to get out there and inform teens! That's really coo'! Well take care!
~*~Cindy~*~

Honestly the whole Japan thing is crap.

You're 15, live it up.

I also think that it is good advice.

And I want to throw something else out there. Just because you do have everything in order, and you know what you want to do, be careful because those things can change any second.

I'm 20 years old and my boyfriend and I just decided that we want to get married. Well...I knew that for awhile but we just got an engagement ring and we're "unofficially engaged". Lol...but anyway...before that, he was going to go to school for 4 years, get his graphic design degree, I was going to finish my AA and transfer to finish a bachlors degree in criminal jusitce and go into law enforcment. Now...within the matter of weeks, we're still getting married next year, but he's going to be going to the community college to get his EMT certificate, and I'm going to finish my AA and I don't really know what I'm going to do.

My point is that it's fine to make plans. That's great...but be ready for them to change. Be ready for feelings to change about things....it's through all that changes that you will find out if you really love eachother. Ya know what I mean?

I still think that I'm to young to be engaged and in love...but I am. And I love every second of it. I know that it's all going to be a struggle, but it's one that I want to go through with my boyfriend more then anything. He's my one and only. No matter how young or old we are.

Great Great advice true that :o)

Kayla, maybe if you looked into International Affairs and not live in your own little world, you would know that it's a fact.

You have plenty of time to fall in love when you are older. What happens when you are forced to move out and don't have the proper education to get a job? Are you going to live with your parents your whole life? But wait, don't a majority of kids hate their parents? So what are they going to do? I'm sure the love of your life will support you. He/she is probably working down at McDonald's or something right?

It's ok to think you've fallen in love in highschool,
but just make sure you're focusing on school. Sort your own life out before you bring someone else in to it.

I believe that it is good advice, but I am to in love and just because someone is in love doesnt mean that they're just going to give up there dreams and education.And for people who love you and believe in you, will step out of your way if you really want to pursue a dream. So just because your in love doesnt mean that your just gonna give up your dreams and education.

You're only 14, grow up. And of course there are people who know how you feel. Don't you think there are kids your age in the same situation as you? You are the one who is full of themself.

No one is saying it's wrong to enjoy your youth, but why are you trying to act older by taking on a 'serious' relationship. You aren't even old enough to get your license.

Broaden your vocabulary so you aren't reduced to vile language.

Very True. I don't like it when my friends won't give up on someone who's bad for them.

There are so many things in life we gotta focus on you know it aint all about the edu only edu in my case is my first priority but when love comes in the way it only makes you stronger to be able to over come the obstacles in life which only making you wiser when it comes to knowledge, and understanding. If you have a goal then no matter what you do you will reach it even if heart breaks occur in between it only makes you more passionate about what you want to do sometimes... you gotta understand and think deeply and stop scratching the surface. Those are the basic advice anyone can give to anyone I can say yea PEOPLES YOUR FUTURE IS MORE IMPORTANT, AND GUYS COME AND GO but it aint really like that, life is about learning not only in the future but forever. Edu depends on you as an individual. Think about it..

ok i agree totally, lol, grade, education and LIFE is more important than 'puppy love' ((even theough i ♥ my B/F)) lol. i call it puppy love b/c we're not actually in love. thats also why i say i ♥ him and not love him, b/c i dont. hes even realized its true so its a really great thing.

xoxo

Lauren ♥'s Kurt

SatinRisse that was excellent advice and it sounds like you really are in love, good luck and i hope everythign works out fine!! =)

"Honestly the whole Japan thing is crap."

"You're 15, live it up."

Look it up yourself

Not all 15 year olds think the same, just because I'm fifteen doesn't mean I follow "mind trends" as in how others think. I've been told by friends and parents I'm more mature in my thoughts than most others my age.

"i mean it fun to no things but its better to have a good life than just sitting around and studying!!!"

You know, I'm not surprised, I've been waiting for somebody to say that. True, wouldn't it be AWESOME to live without stress and worries? Ha, wait till you get into the real world where your status or whatever you have right now won't really matter. It's competitive out there, you're not going to get everything you Want.

*Like I said before, this post is for advice and hoping to expand some people's minds. I don't want people to suffer in poverty or live in "what ifs" later on. Just a warning. I never said to take FUN out of LIFE.

japan is beating us in practically everything...and thats FACT not fiction. in japan kids that are 15 would have already had their career path chosen for them and been working towards it everyday of their life. here in america we have a choice of what we want to do and to many people are takin it for granted and being lazy. by doin that we are falling behind in everything. and as dumb as it sounds, the future of america depends on it! cause who knows...we could go into war with japan and they could out wit us at that too and then we'd be screwed...so i agree...take time to prioritize!!! you'll thank yourself later!!!

THank you

i'm not telling or forcing people to do what I said. It's just advice, I don't want people to live with regrets

And I'm not telling to worship money, I just want people to get good grades and education so if one day if they decide they want to pursue their dream career, they have the knowledge and skills to do that.

That is great advice actually.

Right now I'm in my first real relationship(I'm 16) and I'm begining to realize that I shouldn't keep putting my life on line for him - school work, goals, dreams ect. He is important to me but so is everything that I have worked for and I don't want to give either up. So maybe I shouldn't have rushed into a relationship but I was bored and wanted to try new things out. And because of my hastiness my life is a total mess at the moment so I'm just going to organize it again and refocus on my dreams and goals becuase it is true that nothing will usually happen if you don't act to change it.

That's my little story from my part of the world.

Peace out
Mercy(Mercedes)

first of all, who ever opened this post, great advice.

i think that being young we havent experienced enough to know what true love is. and its great to have someone there to hold your hand and spill your heart to, but if it gets to the point where you would do anything to make them happy, even if it means that your unhappy. then there is something wrong and you should realise that your world doesnt revolve around them....your world revolves around your best interest. education is so important, dont let it go. dont let the good things slip by either though, not all relationships end up with people getting hurt, not all relationships are meant to be, take chances, take risks, and in the end, if your happy...life will be okay.

"i mean it fun to no things but its better to have a good life than just sitting around and studying!!!"

usually when you do things well (ace a test, get straight a's, WHATEVER) then you feel better about yourself therefore you will keep on accelerating, it feels great to accomplish something good yourself.

plus, this is GREAT advice because look at how many divorces are happening, if you're a child of divorce in which the divorce has hurt the family or your family image then you DONT want anything close to that in your marriage.

when you're 15 you cant tell if you REALLY love someone, your relationship skills still need to mature.

my boyfriend says he loves me but im not sure i love him back so i dont say it! he knows he means the world but these days love is just a word people toss around and its losing it's meaning.

You really need to do what YOU want with you life. Don't plan it around someone else. EVER. Because at any moment...that person can be gone. Do what YOU want to do and if the other person really loves you, they will support you and be there for you.

At such a young ago though, I wouldn't really worry to much about a guy...Life always come first at this point in your...well...life. Lol.

Guys at your age...or girls for the guys reading this....are just extra!! Enjoy them!! Lol....well...in a smart way.