lovers, to friends, to lovers, to still talking, to HUH??

Righto, the title was how me and my now and again ex's relationship goes. I want to know...what in the hedgehog is my role now.

She lives up north 4 hours away for less than a year. We were together, then broke up, she was about to move n' we got togther again, and broke up when the distance became too much. Last time I heard from her b4 was NOT to EVER call her, email her, or in anyway contact her again...so I didn't. Yet then she told me she was coming over to my area and that she'd like to see me and still wanted to be with me. (in my mind I thought, "liar." but anyway).She came to visit last weekend and told me some things in another email the day after she visited ppl about her sexual relations with a guy, once a friend, that weekend.

I'm just like.....ok, what? confuzzled right now. What do I do or not do here? Obviously I still got feelings for the girl but no way I want back cuz of other reasons (just to clearify) but still...eh, what now?

anyone?

Well I think that you just need to leave her alone. I mean...move on with your life. If she has...then you need to. Ya know? Why hurt yourself for someone that isn't going to do the same.