I have a problem

I have a problem..Okay the other day at school my friend showed me and my friend Samara her new bra and paties...me not knowing my boyfriend behind me saw and that night he came clean to tell me that when he saw that he because aroused....he also stated that it was just cause it was panites and a bra , not that it was on her...i think otherwise....what should i do? do i dump him or believe him??

So... I seem to fail to see where the problem lies, your boyfriend aroused by panties and bra, so. you are sad becuase of that? Normally I don't like to be mean, but if that makes you sad or makes you think of it as a problem... then seriously, you need something to occupy yourself with, for its not a problem and it's not like he's dumped you..

I say, let it go and enjoy your life while your living and let these little things go.

Again, I normally do not like being neither mean nor rude, but I am stating this opinion, for I believe you are making a problem our of nothing.

I agree Gaara well said

You really shouldnt have any problem at all its natural for young men to be aroused visually. Think yourself lucky he was honest with you and it wasnt that your girlfriend was in those panties and bras that aroused him...your making a mountain out of a mole hill darling, I think you have self confidence perhaps image issues if something so trivial is bothering you - wait until your boyfriend is old enough to buy porn and that arouses him LoL sheesh you have a lot to learn kid!

it's not that , im just kind of sad because she is my best friend and he always talks about her in ways boyfriends shouldnt.....I'm afraid he's going to cheat on me and not it's not low self esteem , it's simply curiosity sence things have been rocky between us......however , thank you for your help..

If she was your friend, she wouldnt cheat with him. So you have no worry. And if you doubt your relationship so much, why are you dating him anyways? Just to have a boyfriend? Well, if so.. you should just break up with him.

-Jennifer.

You are entitled to feel that way if hes going on about her all the time, my bad you didnt mention that he continuously talks about her in your initial post. Perhaps you should ask him how he feels and let him know that its upsetting you to hear him go on about your best mate all the time, if his behaviour continues perhaps hes just not the right one for you...goodluck :o)

thank you guys for your help.....this was a retarded post , but i needed to advice....me and him are not longer together....thank you all ^_^

dump him (or i guess you already did). not only should your guy not become arroused by bra and panties unless he has some strange fettish for fabric, obviously making it clear that he was lying and he was actually turned on my the combination of new bra and panties and your friend...but MOST OF ALL, all you stupid girls out there...if your boyfriend is retarded enough to TELL you that he became arroused, dump him. Date gentlemen not horny idiots unless you are yourself a horny idiot.

all those girls that say its ok for your boyfriend to become arroused visually by your friends...WOW, you are never going to be happy in a relationship and you are going to date assholes. you girls are embarrasingly foolish....and don't think i am just pulling this out of thin air....

...i have had my share of long term relationships.
1st one was 1 year
2nd was 3 months
3rd 8 months
current: 10 months so far

and believe me, i have gone through the asshole stage and my current boyfriend is the perfect gentlemen. completely loyal, only attracted to me (as it should be, don't tell yourself any different), not obsessive, reliable, not flirtatious (with anyone but me), etc. if you don't believe me, you should talk to him...if he proves otherwise, i will dump him.

Nicely said Arwen!!! Agree 100% with that!

I think it's fine. My ex got mad at me once because me and my girlfriends wouln't stop talking about this guy's 6-pack. I think it was because my ex didn't have the greatest body. Anyway panties are panties, and they are going to make a guy excited. But it's not like there's anything emotional going on, it's all phisical.