No father relationship

okay, my parents divorced when I was 2, and after that I would always visit my dad every weekend. I was VERY close to my dad. As in, favorite parent, the one I wanted to go with me on field trips, all that. Well, he remarried when I was about 7, and he then abopted her two kids. After then, I realized he was changing. He would never do anything with asking her permission, he would yell at me for nothing, and when ever my brother and I asked if we could just hang out the three of us, he would have a fit and say we do things as a family. Well, on my 16th birthday, he called me, and started to yell at me. He said I was using him for his money. Apparently I only wanted to see him because he bought me things. I got very upset that night. My brother called him back, and bitched at him for what he said to me. After that, we talk less and less. Then when I was almost 17, (by then we had not talked for months) I called him and got very upset that we were not talking. And he said it was my fault. So, it has now been almost 2 years since I have actually talked to him. I started to say to myself, it will be his loss, he will one day realize, all of that. Will, I just came back from my grandparents, and found a couple things out. Apparently my dad now has to wear a mask when he sleeps because his heart was stopping in the night. And that really upset me. I want to call him and be a part of his life, but don't want to be part of his wifes, and her kids. And I know he will say we're all a family, so If i see one, i see all. And another thing. To call him, I need the number, because right now he is living in a hotel for his new job, and I don't want to call his wife because she is the only one who has. BTW the reason I hate her so much is because she boss' my dad around and turned him against my brother and I. She also use to stab me with forks when I wouldn't eat, and always scream at me. My mom said she was jeolous before. That is why she most likesly acted that way. Anyways, my question is, do you think it is worse a shot?

She STABBED YOU WITH FORKS? Double u tee eff? Well I think if he's going to allow that to happen, let you two drift apart and her boss him around; Then you should leave it, he's not worth being part of your life. Considering he shouts at you for nothing. kbye.

At least you know your father.

Mine left my mom when she was preg. and didnt pay any child support. Now, my mom is happily married with a boy who's my half brother and another one on the way. Recently i found out that my biological father has children of his own. A boy just around my age, and two girls. One of which i heard looks a great deal like me. Ive written letters numerous times, and even tried calling. He wont let me meet them. I dont care about him. he's filth in my eyes. but to not let me meet my own siblings. I think thats a disgrace.

i look down on him..
god bless

well my parents got divorced when i was 2 and every year he would leave then come back then leave over and over again. Im glad i dont live w/ him becuz he used to beat my mom and me. She would have kicked him out sooner if she would have known that he was beating me. He finally left when i was 8 and i havent talked to him since i dont even know where he is living all i know is some where in florida. He is homeless and in a wheelchair (i know all of this from his brother and his mother) well anwayz like i said he left when i was 8 and now im 15 so i havent had any form of communication w/ him in 7 years. that may not seem long but it feels like FOREVER but oh well i guess i just wanted to share my story. oh by the way when my dad walked out on us when i was 8 he said he'd make it better than us...my mom is a nurse going skool w/ 2 kids and works at Duke Hospital (thats a BIG hospital in NC) and he is living in a homeless shelter in a wheel chair w/ a wife and twins....who do you think is doing better???

hey dont worry about ur dad though if he rly cares about you then he'll listen to you and you'll get things straightened out but if he dosnt listen to you then dont worry about it just forget him (i know easier said than done) but honestly if he loves you then things will straighten out but if he just dosnt care then forget him. thats all i can say sry i couldnt be more help

~nikki

Please, please don't cut things off with your dad.

People may envy me because I love mine so much, I would never wish anyone to miss out on what I have.

With your father's heart condition, there might not be too long.

Call your dad. Don't get the wife involved. If she picks up the phone, just say in a business like tone you would like to speak with him. Then you can get all teary-eyed.

You have to find a way to get the number.

If for some reason he ever passes on, at least you'll have the chance that you tried.

Tell him you want a father. Tell him how much you loved him, and how you favored him. If he says it's your fault, just for a moment take it. Adults don't say that because it's a fact- they use it as an excuse. So know it's an excuse, say "Dad, please, let's work things out." and if he's not up to it, you tried and you saw that things were a failure.

Try your hardest.

My mom and dad divorced before I was three so I know what you are talking about.