Why does it hurt?

Okay, so an ex boyfriend of mine that was in the military, he told me he would write to me and keep me updated and he hasn't. I don't know whether to worry that he is passed or to just forget about it because it was probably a lie and he never meant to write to me. He just said it to make me feel better. I honestly don't know what to think - but the more I think about it, the more it hurts. He was supposed to be out a few days ago. So I texted the number I had of his today and at the time just figured he didn't remember me and that was helping but now I found out it's someone elses phone now. Gahh.

Another ex boyfriend, he was on probation and he got in trouble and now he is going back to jail. He was already in jail about a year ago for being caught with drunk driving. That one I told him was his fault and he knows how against that I am. I mean, I am the president of the SADD club at school - how could that not peeve me off?! But the more I think about how I have tried to help him, the more it hurts me to see him falling back to it. He used to be extremely into drugs and he would drink a lot. And now he has been clean and sober for around 7 months and he has a new girlfriend and I am so happy for him and things are finally going okay for him and now it is just about to fall all downhill again.

And then my other one is thinking about joining the military and I really don't want him to. I mean this is one of the ones that still talks to me and I am really good friends with still - more than before we went out. But he says it's something to do. But he is not thinking it all through - he's not thinking what could happen to him out on the battlefield and all. He is nineteen - just turned; so sure he wants to go somewhere in life and all but I really don't want him to join the military of all things. It hurts not being able to help him out more and to make him see there are other things that he could do. I am just so worried about him.

I have a new boyfriend, and I have moved on. And I really do love my boyfriend and he doesn't mind that I keep in touch with most of my exes but he also doesn't know how hurt I am about these. I try not to talk to him too much about it because he has a jealousy issue even though he knows that I am just friends with them all and nothing more. But I also can not talk to any friends about it because they all just say "Meh, you are better off without them, move on."

I don't know why this hurts so much and I do not know what to do about it or what to think. Any help would really be appreciated.

-Jenna.

Sorry that's so long. Didn't mean for it to be that long.

-Jenna.

i know how it feels i feel that way too about my exes but theres nothing i can really do about it... theres this great guy i met last year, he was so awsome he seemed to understand everything i had to say but my father didnt like him so lets just say that im not aloud to see him anymore and it hurts so much because i still love him allthought i have other guys after me expecialle my boyrfriend.

i still see that wonderful guy i met in my parents back but its hard because my parents have people watching me everywhere i go and it really pisses me off but what can i say.... life is hard !

i dont know what to say about your exes except that maybe you should just let them go, im not saying to stop talking to him, no, completely the contrary if you really want to know if hes over you and if hes ok get closer to him little and little and one day he'll probably talk to you about it or just ask him maybe they'll be glad to tell you!

and about your boyfriend thats filled with jealousy just let that pass by you, trust me my boyfriend is the same, everytime one of my exes talk to me or i talk about them when hes there he will repetively tell me to just let them go and he'll tell me allsorts of insults he has about them and most of the time i could get so mad at him but i just ket it pass me by!

i hope my advice will help

sarah

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Sarah,

I have let him go. We are both moving on and I don't know what he is doing because he is in the military and he could be dead for all I know. I think that is why it hurts so much. I know that if I knew he was okay and he was still going that it wouldn't hurt me this much but it does. And it confuses me.

Yeah I do let the jealousy pass me by, because I know that I am sorta the same way to him about his exes so I try not to get too worked up about it. Thanks for the advice! =]]

-Jenna.