really confused..

Okay, this may turn out to be a little long so thanks for taking your time to read this.

I've never once guessed about my preference on guys or girls. I always thought I was straight, but I guess I kinda thought something was there that kept me guessing sometimes.

Now I really know how I feel, because I really like this other girl. We spent all day today together and we had such a fun time. She's a lesbian, and me and her have a lot in common.

We both love photography and art. Well, there's a problem. She thinks I'm straight, and I don't know if I could just come right out and say that I'm not. I'm not ready to do that and I don't know if I ever will.

Eventually our 2 friends came and we were hanging out. And the girl I like kept saying that she really wanted a girlfriend, and I said back that I really want a relationship. I wanted to say I want a girlfriend too but I just couldn't. Then one of our friends said why don't you two go out? And then she was like because she's not a lesbian. And I don't know what to do. I've never felt this way about another girl before. I really really like her, what do I do?

Tell her.

It's not that easy just to tell someone that, does anyone else have anything else I can do besides that. Like ways to show her? I'm not ready to tell people im a lesbian.

Can someone please help me?

Flirt around her, she'll soon get the message lol

As You spend more time with her she'll probably realise anyway.. For the most part us lesbians have good gaydar.

Good luck xx

I read the whole thing and I think you should try talking to her. I am straight, but I have gay friends and they are no different from me. I believe that no one should have to have the pain that they went through just because they have a different preference than some of us. If you can handle the first plunge of telling someone, then you can handle anything. Do not be afraid of who you are and never, NEVER be afraid to say what you feel. If the people around you truly love you, then they will support you when you need it the most.

Ciao xx

Thanks a lot guys, I'm gonna try to tell her. It's just I have to figure out how I'll say it. Thanks

Aw, no problem hun! (hopeless romantic). Try writing her a poem ar a song, whatever you are comfortable doing. Let the her know and I wish you the best of luck! Ciao xx

Hmm, I might wanna do something like that. It's just this is really different then I'm used to, I never liked someone like this before I've never felt this way. I'm gonna try flirting around with her for a while and see how it goes.

On monday me and her are staying after in school in the dark room because we're developing pictures that we took the other day, so maybe I'll try telling her then. Thanks for the advice.

Hi Amanda

I guess firstly before being honest with her you need to be honest with yourself about your feelings towards her and your sexuality in general. Perhaps the best first step would be to speak to someone you trust or a councillor to discuss your emotions and come to some sort of acceptance of them. Once you are done battling your own demons perhaps you will feel comfortable bringing up your feelings with her.

Alright, I Might Be The Only One Saying This, Im Not Sure, But.... Be Blunt About It.

If The Hinting Doesnt Work, Just Come Out A Kiss Her.... Out Of No Where, That Should Get Your POint Across lol

you have to be comfortable with your sexuality, and not care what ANYONE thinks....

because keeping it all inside, Wont Get You Anwhere

I Hope I Helped. But Seriously, If You Really Like Her.... Tell Her, Or Show Her. ;)

Eibutsina, yea I guess you're right. I should talk to someone about it first. I don't really know who I can talk to though. I feel really shy about it.

And to the other above me, I don't think I could ever just come out and kiss her! lol

I guess I'm gonna think about this for a while, I know that I really do like her a lot. She's so beautiful. I guess I just gotta get comfortable with myself first.