why arent we together??? i need some advice please!!!

i am in love with the most wonderfull girl i could ever hope to meet. but she broke up with me because apparently i dont care about her, apparently i never made an effort to see her enough. she told me that she couldnt see us working out. she kept asking me if i could see things working out. all i could do was come up with reasons i thought we could and should be together. all i gave her were options but she said that things would be too difficult. iafter a half hour of hearing her cut me down i finnaly caved in and said that obviously she had already made up her mind and then she hugged e for about ten minuites telling me that she cares about me, wants to be with me and loves me. so why arent we together???

she's not ready. or atleast thats my opinion. she is trying to pick out everything thats wrong with you so she doesnt have to say its her. i broke up with my b/f todayand i tried to blame it on things hes done and realized its all me. im not ready to get serious and i dont want to be in a relationship now. idk i guess its really easy to blame problems with ourselves on other people. but im sure she does care about you!

i gues u shud start doing things more to make her feel that your relationship is really working well...just let her feel that you truely love her.and dont give up...find out d real prob..and make d best solution/s out of it..trust in urself u can make it i beliv! God bless :)

i think.. if i was in that sit. (the girl) id be scared.. i think she loves you soo much.. and is scared. orr. i do not want to sound mean but maybe shes done something. and doesnt want to hurt you. ive almost broke up with my boyfriend whom i love so much simply because i loved himso much and couldnt deal with not being wiht him 24/7.. it hurt when i wasnt with him. luckily i didnt and were still together. but i think she is prolyl in the same predicament. id give her some time.. then go to her. talk to her. show her you love and need to be wtih her.

Hope i helped.

x3 Lauren

well.. i sorta went through the same thing... you see my .. well my boyfriend now.. i broke up with him for mostly the same reasons.. plus he seemd to cut me down alot... but he loved me.. and still does.. i wasnt ready to date him persay.. but i still wanted to be with him... i ended up going back to an ex that i had before him.. it lasted about a month.. all i could think about was garry. (my now boyfriend) by then he was dating a chick by the name of brittney... so i kept to myself about everything.. one day we were tlaking on msn and i told him how i felt about him still...
a few weeks later he broke up with brittney..
me and garry became close but we didnt date for over another month...

so all im saying is that i dont think she is ready to date you again.. shes afraid that it will end up exactly the same as last time... just be there for her as much as you can..

James,it sounds like shes just confused,she cares about u,but shes scared,all girls get that way,just give her some space and let her come to u :)