what is wrong with me?!?

hey guys

i posted a topic sort of related to this before, but it mysteriously dissapeared before anyone could even reply, lol. so well heres the problem:

my last potential relationship where i liked a guy and he liked me back was a couple years ago, and i havent had another until etremely recently(but thats for later). the thing is as soon as he thought we were really gonna go somewhere and started doing things like hold my hand, i started to back off and i couldnt help it. i started to feel sick all the time around him and i had no idea why, so i ended up ruining that.

so as i already mentioned, i havent even had another real potential guy until pretty much these past few days, and i really like him and everything, and im pretty sure he likes me too- hes sending alot of signs. i've liked him as potential for a few months now i guess, so im really happy this may actually lead somewhere. the thing is, lately that sick feeling i got with the guy from before is starting to show up again.. just once in a while, like when im about to see him i feel sick and dont really want to see him anymore. i have NO IDEA WHY.. and im really trying to ignore it and push it away.

i thought last time this happened it may have been because i wasnt ready, but i really thought i was over that, and i feel like i am definitely ready now. i cant figure out why its happening again, though, or what i can do to stop it- i really dont want to ruin this again, i'v been waiting forEVER for a situation like this and now that its here, im starting to back off again.

so my question is WHATS WRONG WITH ME? why am i being like this? i cant control the feelings and it sucks, its not much right now but im so scared the same thing is going to happen again this time. does anyone have any advice, or can anyone relate? can anyone even tell me what im experiencing! and help would be GREATLY appreciated.. i have no idea if anyone else even knows what im talking about.

thanks alot guys, and anything would help.

i went through this with a guy before if he called at the house i would have to make him wait outside because i was just too excited about seeing him!! i felt sick or you could call it an extreme case of butterflys and i was usually in the toilet for about 10 mins until i calmed down but if i saw him it would all flare up again... i know how you feel and its soo annoying when you want things to work.

i think its because you dont know what to do or how to react or even what he will think of you, i cant think of any good advice because i honestly cant remember how i got over this situation... i think the best thing is to get to know him and no matter how much you dont want to HOLD HIS HAND, and if he asks for a kiss give him one because then you will feel more relaxed being around him,im not saying go all the way with him because that a complete NO if you dont know him really well. All you have is a crush i had with a guy on the net one time and everytime he came on i was full of butterflies.

the reason you might not want to see him anymore is because you dont know how to react or what he'll think but if you hide away in the bathroom like i did hes sure to be concerned be strong and be careful.. thats the best advice i can give at present i hope it helps and remember it will go in time once you get more experienced in the whole dating situation

Sarah

p.s good luck xx

thanks! yeah i think i'm going to try and do things with him anyways and hopefully it will go away.. im still just confused as to what it is, though. i think it might sort of have to do with what you said about butterflies, but not totally, because its like.. more of a really uncomfortable feeling. i think it might also be because i guess it seems strange to me that someone would like me, and im not all low-self esteemy but its honestly so hard for me to think of myself with a guy, like, why would they choose me out of all the other girls? i dont know, but yeah, ill try and do what you said.
so thanks so much for your answer!
and help is still appreciated guys

AHH its getting worse (noitsnotnoitsnotnoitsnot) he just added me to AIM and im getting that sick feeling

I HAVE NO IDEA WHERE IT EVEN COMES FROM OR WHY

its like im afraid of anything romantic ever happening to me or something, even though i want it SOO BAD.

i dont understand this

someone please help!??!

and like i mentioned earlier, its like- a sick type of feeling that makes me want to almost throw up and not be with them and really nervous and uncomfortable and it SUCKS

HEELP

hah yeah.. and thats true. no i dont think its the BOY making me sick, hes pretty attractive lol. just the situation? maybe i am too nervous.. ill try your advice, thanks alot!

thanks its good to know im not completely alone then, it might be possibly from nervousness i guess. probably more than a little. ill try to remember that next time lol, thanks!

Try getting into Yoga or something relaxing, and trust me, you are defintely not alone!!! There was this boy, and he had told my friend he thought I was pretty, so I went up to talk to him, and almost lost my lunch, thank god I didn't.... lol, that would have been BAD!!!

But I totally understand how you're feeling with the whole, why would he choose me? I totally understand, and personally, I think it's just you underestimating yourself. I'm sure your a beautiful person. If he likes you, then it's for a reason, and I'm sure it's a good one!! ^_^ I hoped this helped, even a little! Much Love, and I hope things work out for you!

hey thanks so much! you guys are making me feel so much better.. k im trying to relax more like you said, and i would actually love to start doing yoga and i've been thinking about it for a while. i never thought it would help with boys though lol, good point...

i think my biggest problem is just the "jump" part of the situation, like for example i'v always found the hardest part of jumping off a cliff into the lake was just to bring yourself to jump, but once you have the rest is fun and easy. maybe thats whats happening to me now? im also pretty sure i have a few other related issues, but this whole situation is causing me to think about them and try to work through them when i never have before.

so thanks guys! this is really helping lol, even though it probably seems like nothing to you. and your welcome to keep posting, i like reading what you have to say! and you never know how much a comment could end up helping..