CONFUSED!!!!

okay, i really had no idea which group thingy to put this in but anyways

so i have this friend and we both like the same guy
and i like really like him...i wanna say love but i dont know if thats the right word for it, so i think he could really like me and when im talking to him, my friend butts in and it really bugs me, but i dont now what to tell her
cause i really like this guy but shes my best friend

HELP!

well...i would say talk to your friend about it...but i know that thats a hard thing to do cuz i have been in this situation.

first off....don't let a guy ruin ya'll friendship...it isn't worth it!!!

you need to find out how to talk to the guy alone with out your friend butting and ruining everything.

i'm sorry that i don't have much more to say...but this is a tough situation to be in! i will try to think about it and get back to you.

First of all, I doubt that you love him. It's just a crush right? So it isn't THAT big of a deal.

What you need to do is talk to your friend. If she is a true friend, she will agree with you when you say that both of you should swear off this guy. He's just a guy, and it's just a crush. It is NOT worth your friendship.

i wish it was that easy
usually i would be able to do that
but i actually think i could love this guy
and i dont think i would be able to swear off him cause when i talk to him it just feels like he completes me or something

If you're 16, then you really don't know.

You have to choose. You can either preserve your friendship, which should be the most important thing to you, or you can risk losing your friend for this guy who you might be able to love. And that isn't guaranteed. Won't you feel stupid if you ditch your friend for this guy, and he turns out to be a jerk?

It's all about your priorities I guess.

And trust me, if you and your friend both continue to try and get this guy, you will have jealousy issues and other problems. You can both agree to not be mad no matter who he chooses- but one of you will end up very hurt, and probably angry.

Who liked him first?
Cos your friend may be butting in cos she feels it's unfair that you're going after him when she was the one crushing on him first.
Don't forget she may have liked him a long time but not told you and seeing you go after him now could be very painful for her so she's trying to prevent it.
You need to talk to her, if your friendship is important to each other, you both need to back off and leave this guy alone.
If he likes one of you, let him come to you, but if you're both going to him, it will ruin your friendship
*Gem*

talk about him in a flirty way. She might not get it at first, but soon shell learn to back off and give you space. If it doesnt work just tell her. That will work. Just be nce, you dont want to lose your friends. Theyre WAY more important than guys

[PygmyPuff]

yahh...im pretty sure i liked him first
we actually had this conversation (who liked him first) the other night
but thats how I feel when she's talking to him
and i know our friendship is so much more important
but i dont want to throw away a possible relationship.

thanks for all the advice but does anyone else have any?
cause im still REALLY confused!

it doesn't MATTER who liked him first, it matters who he chooses, obviously you have an issue you want to work out, and it's up to one thing; letting your friend "go for him" or "betraying your friend" (as if) and trying to make a move. she's being selfish, and doesn't sound like a good friend to me, and if you're going to let a boy ruin your friendship that easily, it's obviously not a strong friendship in the first place. Not that i'm one of those people who say "friends over boyfriends" all the time, but yeah.

soo are you saying i should or should not go for him??