so why do parents get divorced

my parents are getting a divorce and i am really shaken up about it. even though they are getting a divorce they are sopossed to do things together for the kids. so why did when my mom decide to put up the christmas tree last night and all the decorations did she not only not ask dad to help us but instead have her boyfriend help us? does that seem fair to you? shouldnt my dad have helped?

*sigh* ... I don't know, but things and love in the adult world is so ....screwed up :( ... I hate divorce, but I don't know what they are going through... try and be strong girl, no matter what, you parents still loves you none the less :) Take care :)

Why do parents get divorced? A question us children/teenagers still try to determine today, i myself dont know the answer. My parents were divorced when i was 2 and my brother 8..Going threw a divorce is not only tough for the parents i personally most of the hardships are obtained by the children, because you are so use to seeing your parents together, and its like one day BAM...there getting divorced, it something that i wish no one has to go threw because it really toys with your emotions, i havent seen my father since i was 2 yrs old, since they were divorced and it really had an effect on me growing up....my advice to you is to stay strong the absloute best way you can, because you dont wanna fall a victim it, your parents both love you no less, and no matter always think of the brighter things....and always rember you are NEVER alone, somewhere someone is going threw the same thing....
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i know that they love me the same and all but it feels like my mom is just not caring that he is still part of my family so i dont know what is going on

That christmas tree thing is horrible! I think she is just trying to make it easy on her boyfriend and not really thinking of your dad. I think you should tell her how you feel though because maybe she will change and stop putting her b/f in your dads place. I'm sorry you have to go through that.

I fdont really understand why people get divorced. My mum and dad got divorced when i was 5 and i havn't seen my dad since. It was really unfair for your mum not to let your dad put up the Christmas tree with you. If she hurt your feelings tell her that you still want her to involve your dad in things. I know what your going through. It hurts when you dont understand why it is happening. If you ever need any one to talk to E-mail me at
danny_robinson2004@hotmail.com

I think the main thing to remember is that: You're parents are still going to be your parents, and no one could and can replace them. Also you parents are not going to love you any less now that they are apart. It is horrible when it happens but do remember it isn't you fault, your Mother will come around with time. It will be ok!

Take care
xx - Kalah