Question for guys

If a guy says he is going to call why dosent he

Hard question because every guy has a different reason.

But i would say either because he is to nervous, inconsiderate, stupid, and dis-respectful....

Yeah...i really want a good answer for that!

Because some guys don't want to deal with emotions. By telling you they were going to call they don't have to worry about how you'll feel when they don't because they'll never see you again. Out of sight, out of mind... Pathetic but true.

The whole emotions things is very true.... because they dont know how to act when it comes to that...

Yea but this guy and i have been going out for a long time and he said he was going to call me the other night and he never did

Well that's a completely different question. I thought you meant someone telling you they would call you after a night of partying and then never seeing them again.

There are a lot of reason, he could have forgotten and by the time he remembered it was too late to call (doesn't mean you're not important people sometimes forget), his cell phone could have died (happens more often then you might think, and if you're a contact on his phone he probably doesn't even know your number without looking at his phone)... There are countless reasons for not calling. As long as it doesn't happen all the time there's no reason to worry about it.

I agree. There's probably a good reason for it. There usually is. Ask him next time you see him, but try not to make it sound accusatory.

"Yea but this guy and i have been going out for a long time and he said he was going to call me the other night and he never did"

In that case, cut the poor guy some slack. :) It's just a guy thing- they generally don't think to call unless they have a specific reason to, such as they want to hang out. It doesn't mean he doesn't care about you, and you have no reason to be upset with him. Boys just tend to pay less attention to details like that. (Note: I realize I'm being stereotypical, and I know that this advice doesn't apply to all guys).

Guys all have different reasons some you can believe and some you cant so you'll never know why he never called you..thats something that you'll never know

If he says he will and he won't, then it generally means that he's not a good guy to be involved with.

Of course, he could've been involved in some misfortunate events that led him to not call you against his will.

Let me see if I can remember this...

Ok, I read an answer to this question proposed by the comedian Dave Barry. I'm heavily paraphrasing, but it went something like this:

"When a man asks a woman 'can I call you?' The woman, reasonably enough, thinks he means 'Can I call you?' However, the man actually means 'Will you marry me?' He asks this because, on sight of the woman in question, he falls (or thinks he's fallen) in love. The later realization of the degree of commitment he's attempted causes him to have a nervous breakdown. This, of course, makes him incapable of doing anything for some time. By the time he has recovered, he has either lost the woman's number, forgotten about her, or both."

Well, that's the best paraphrase I can come up with off the top of my head. It's been a few years since I read the bit, but I think I got the gist.

That aint no help dude^

I'm a gal but i think
For the same reason why companies say 'We'll call you' and don't-when you apply-
I hope you know what i mean