Little brother is heartbroken

Never thought i'd come begging for help to help someone else but here goes..

My brother is sixteen and he's just broken up with his first long time serious girlfriend. He's not a bad looking kid and it's only a matter of time he meets someone else but he's really really cut up about this. But they'd only been going out five months.

He opened up to me last night, apparantly this break up was out of the blue, only the week before Heather has said I love you to him for the first time and she didn't seem like the type of girl to lead someone on. But two days ago, she turned round to him and told him, her feelings had changed and she wanted to break up, but still stay friends as they had been friends for years before going out.
But my brother rang me in tears asking me to come home last night because having spent the day with her as just friends, he couldn't do it again because it hurt.

We talked and he's very confused how this doesn't seem to be affecting heather as all when they were so happy just a few days ago. None of their friends know whats going on in her head either.

I told him it's only a matter of time before he meets someone else and he'll look back on this in a few years with fond memories.
But now i've found out that only a week ago, it was the first time they slept together. And i know from experience how much it hurts when the first person you sleep with dumps you a week later.

I don't know how to help him right now because nothing i say seems to work, he can't imagine ever feeling happy again and no matter how hard i try to tell him we've all been there and he will get over it, he won't listen.

He doesn't like being alone right now either but me and Marcus have a lot on our plates right now and find it hard to travel down to Heywood every night.
This saturday we're going down and Marcus is going to try and talk to him but i don't know if we can help.

Wow, what a ramble, lol. But if anyone has been in this situation, any idea's?
Thanks in advance
*Gem*

To be honest, Gemma.. He's the only one that can help himself.

Encouraging words may help, but if he tells himself he'll never be happy again.. He wont be for awhile. All you can do is spend time with him, try to get him out with his mates, and encourage him to heal himself.

He's the only one that can do it.

Hie. I'm kinda new here. I hope you don't mind me commenting...

All I can say is.. be there for him as much as you can... Show him u care.. U dun hafta travel there every night.. U can give him phone calls.. U know just b there for him...

He don't actually need advices.. He just need someone to listen to him ramble... To be e shoulder he can cry on...

MAN! I wish i had a sibling like u... Mine is like so.. I-wish-i-could-hit-you! I had a major fight with e bf and cried and they laughed at me! Idiots! haha!

But yah anyway.... Be there for him....

g'luck =))

Perhaps their sleeping together was connected to her breaking up with him? That's a huge step to take in a relationship, and maybe it made her really confused... Just a thought.

I'm sure opening up to you already helped him some. There's probably no magic words you can tell him to make him feel better... Just continue to be there for him, listen, talk when he needs it. Your love could help.

Gem, all you can do is be there for him. Show him that you love him, and let him know that he has people there for him. That always helps in such situations.
Maybe he should try talking to his ex about why they broke up. It might make it a little easier on him. Who knows they might talk about it and decide to get back together.

I agree that she might just be confused and unsure of herself, obviously she wants friendship and him in her life.

Actually it hurts more now to completely walk away then it would to remain freinds, but in the long run just remaining friends will torture him and creaste more pain then if he would have just walked completely away.

It is a double edge sword here and no matter the action he chooses he will feel pain. In my opinion it would be best to feel it all now instead of allowing it to slowly cripple him.

Gem, darling, just be his souding board and remind him of his best qualities. Do not in any way put her down or judge him because then he will not feel comfortable coming to you anymore.

What to girls do when they get their heart broke? MMM... get that ice cream out and some movies ...

Also, remind him that she will always have a special place in his heart and that it is not only normal, but also ok

~~Sher

Thanks, everyone. I've read every single comment and you've all made some excellent points, (lol, Sherry, ice cream makes it all better! =)

I've basically just tried to be there for him when he needs me and he's started hanging out with his friends more now and he seems generally a bit more happier.

So thanks everyone. I overreacted a bit, but thats what big sisters do i guess, lol.

*Gem*

Yep, you were just looking out for the people you love :D