Dealing with difficult crush

  • Kuro
    16 years ago

    Because of my shyness, i have never been too popular with the girls. and because of my experience with switching schools and having to adapt to new friends, i find it really hard to find/make friends. i suppose i'm too much of a loner. but i eventually did find somebody like me, who is nerdy and is a bit of a loner herself. i keep getting subtle hints that she might like me *i think* but i don't know if i want to take of my mask and show her how i feel yet, because then i just fall straight into the catagory of the typical guy that has probably hit on her before.

    i wanna show her that i want to be with her, but it is for real. i know she is like me. (atleast i hope) i've befriended her for a few years. then asked her out once, but failed :(. its been about a year later and i still like her. i met up with her recently and have just recently been hanging around her again. i still feel the same way about her. even though she needed her space. which i gave her.

    i dont want to botch it up again. i know she is the one because i can't move on. anyone else i see will never be good enough because they are not Jessica.

    do i accept my fate to be "just a friend" or is it safe for a second try?

  • Beautiful Chaos
    16 years ago

    I don't think it is that you can't move on, you just don't feel safe enough to move on, it took a lot for you to do it in the first place, so you hold on that there might be a chance and there is a little less pressure because you have traveled down that road already. Try if you will, but if the answer is the same you will eventually have to find the courage to put yourself out there.

  • Lori
    16 years ago

    ^You CAN move on. You just don't have enough self-confidence to do it. Hun, just because you are having trouble moving on doesn't mean and shes the one. Not true.

    But I think you should give it a second shot. What have you got to lose? But if she says no, leave her alone and move on. Theres not much else to else to do in that case.