Flirting #2

Just the other day I heard a group of young ladies saying how that it suuuuuucks (their words not mine) that now that they're in a relationship that they don't get to flirt anymore...

To which I thought, 1) That if your miss being able to flirt with other guys then why are you even in a relationship with someone? (of which is a hypothetical question) And, 2) Was completely untrue. Sure, perhaps you don't get to flirt with random guys like you use to when you were single but you can still flirt with your boyfriend.

I've been in a relationship for over 4 years & I constantly flirt with my boyfriend, probably more so with him than I did when or would if I were single & it was or were with some random guys.

What's your opinion?

Note: This is not a problem I am having. I am just bringing up this topic out of curiosity to what others have to think about the situation & type of people I mentioned. Just in case some of you didn't know. :)

It depends who you are. Women don't even understand themselves. There is a sad and deluded philosophy, especially amongst young and inexperienced poets who seem to believe in some sort of fair and idealistic love.

This is all well and good until you realise that I for instance, could pick up most of your girlfriends despite you having been in a 2-year relationship.

The reason is that girls are led by their pussy, just as we are lead by our schlongs. Get it wet and the girl will do anything for you. Sure, berate me for my crude vulgarity, but empirically I can tell you there's no flaw in my words.

Not that I'd ever do such a thing. I learnt this after my first gf cheated on me. Girls have two modes of operation, short and long term. In the long term sure, a stable, comfortable and fun relationship is great. In the short-term, all it takes is for a skilled man to capture and lead her imagination in order to seduce her.

Sad but true. Of course this is in general. Everyone's different.

You wouldn't be led by your sexual organs if you learn to control your sexual desires, which I understand is hard, but it'll help you in the long run to stay out of unwanted trouble. ;)

I fail to see the point, if I am completely honest.

A relationship is a commitment. If one cannot respect that, then one probably does not deserve to be in one.

"A relationship is a commitment. If one cannot respect that, then one probably does not deserve to be in one."

"Just because you are comfortable and committed does not mean the contact or flirtation should go away."

^ Both of these were beautifully said & I couldn't agree more. :)

Those girls seem like pretty sleezy girls, dont be with the person if all you want is a fling
flirting with other people while in a relationship is very wrong

Yeah.

So far, for the discussion, still good. You all bring up very good points & your own opinions. :)

I always hear these feminists "clucking" that men are only led by their "schlongs". I think to myself, sometimes even state to them just to get a rise, that just as many women are led by their "man in the boat" as men are to their "schlongs". It just all depends on who they are.

As well, speaking of it depending on who they are, the same can be said for the girls in my example in the original post. Some girls, and guys, just aren't ready for a committed relationship or aren't able to stay committed in one.

"Flirting with your significant other is and can be almost more tantalizing than foreplay itself"

^ Exactly! That is something that I definitly agree on.

I went on to Amazon.com to search for "Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger & was able to read a few chapters. It's very interesting, funny & up my alley, haha. Thanks for the recommendation. :)

I totally agree with you, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 10 months now and I would say I flirt way more with him now then I did when I was single.