I'm Completly falling Apart.. Help!!

  • perfectlyBROKEN
    16 years ago

    My mum & dad get drubk in the weekends & they temd to gang up on me, & yell at me & insult me & it hurts me because sometimes Dad would say "just get out of f***ing face" & mum would just say nothing or sometimes smaile & laugh.. Then the next day i don't talk to them & they make out as thouh i asm being so pathtic & a b*tch.. Its been happening for so long, I have n more strength left anymore.. I just sit in my room crying & crying until i eventually fall asleep, i'm exhausted every day, i'm tired, i'm weak & sometimes just feel physicaly sick..

    How do i pick myself back up!!

  • Aveena
    16 years ago

    Uhmm well seeing as your 15, I think the best way would be to talk to a concellor at your school or something... in one of my friends cases it was her mom, so she got kicked out and is now living with her dad... maybe you could talk to the councellers at your school, maybe see a social worker.. move into a group home or something. I hope my adive helped in some way..

  • perfectlyBROKEN
    16 years ago

    Your advice has helped thank you.. I have started seeing a counciler outside school & i hope that i can get myself back on track.

  • Joy
    16 years ago

    NO!
    im 15 and im going through the same exact thing, my mom is an alcoholic, all she does is drink and pass out in the living room..with strangers roaming around my house at all hours of the night.
    im the youngest child and the only one that has to put up with it..all of my siblings live out of state.
    She curses me out and forces me to do things that make no sense, but at the end of the day..i know that i wouldnt make it anywhere else, and that she needs me to get throught what SHES going through.

    DO NOT! go to your school counselor unless you wanna be taken from your mom and dad and put in a foster home..or maybe that wont happen, but in my case it will.

    ..just get out of the house and try to have fun as much as you can, dont waste your life in the room crying yourself to sleep to the pint where you feel physically sick, thats not going to get you anywhere..trust me!
    hang out with friends, get into some type of sport, the more youre away from the drama, the better you'll feel in the end.

  • Aveena
    16 years ago

    But what about what happens when she goes back home.. it will be just depression and sadness agaiin... ^^ that's how my friends life was.. she would go out have funn all dayy and then she would come back home and see all that.. i've seen it happen all throughout my fam and my friends.. no matter what shes still going to deal with it when she goes back home.. all shes doing is takin the pain away for a while, and then going back into saddness agaiinn.. atleast just keepp the councllor and talk about your prob. but if things do get worse do ask to move out...you prob love your parents a hell of a lot.. but really..

  • Elizabeth
    16 years ago

    "DO NOT! go to your school counselor unless you wanna be taken from your mom and dad and put in a foster home.."

    ^ Yeah, sure, just go back "home" & risk winding up in the hospital, on the streets or worse... Pfft...

    It doesn't matter if it's a school counselor. Hell it could be your neighbor or even a stranger. Anyone can report these events if they witness them or you tell them & the police can interfere.

    This is possibly the worst piece of advice I've seen thus far...

  • Aveena
    16 years ago

    ^^ couldn't agree more..

    stick with your counccelor.. ( that's soo spelt wrong)

  • Nanita
    16 years ago

    Most definately, talk wih a counselor. That's what they're there for, to help.

    I'd also say ignore their comments when they're drunk, cause it's really the alcohol talking... BUT then again, they say the only people that speak the truth are kids are drunk folks. In this case, I believe they are mentally/emotionally/physically going through something and they start yelling at you because they have no one else to take their anger out on but you.

  • AnCi
    16 years ago

    I think that you really need to talk to someone, an adult, and if it's necessary get help to move because NO ONE should have to tolerate that kind of behaviour, espcially not from your parents who are supposed to love you, not hurt you!

  • Katlette
    16 years ago

    It doesn't matter who you talk to just talk to someone. You need out. things were like that for me as i grew up. As soon as my 3 older brothers could they moved out. that's when my parents started noticing. They wouldn't come home for holidays to visit. I didn't get to see them. things cooled down. I am only 16 and i have tried moving.

    But you need to talk to someone. No person should go through this. Especially young people. If CPS is called it could be for the better. It is their job to help you.

  • Steady Stereotype
    15 years ago

    Well, of course it would be best to talk to someone. Any one at all to get a bit of help, to get out of the rut and of course letting it all out always helps.

    I agree, a councillor would definitely be a good idea, and it's great to hear that you are seeing one, the only thing now to tackle are your parents. But, I'm only so old, and can't say I'm too experienced with things like this, anything above my usual level of intellect. But I think talking would be a bit difficult, but you should first try to tell them how you feel, and if that doesn't work you might have to call for help. Someone to deal with your parents alcohol problem because, if you don't stop it soon the only one who'll be hurt is yourself :/

  • Beautiful Chaos
    15 years ago

    "DO NOT! go to your school counselor unless you wanna be taken from your mom and dad and put in a foster home.."

    "^ Yeah, sure, just go back "home" & risk winding up in the hospital, on the streets or worse... Pfft..."

    ^Agreed, when one of the strangers wandering around her house winds up in her bedroom, how exactly should she go about ignoring that?

    Children should not have to grow up like this and the ones who are unlucky enough to do so for most of their life either grow to hate them or they become enablers. If someone can't take care of their kids they shouldn't have them, end of story, it is disgusting what some kids have to endure.

  • coverd in darkness
    15 years ago

    I'm saying this based on my mistakes growing up when i was in a simular situation where basically i refused to let anyone help i wish i could take it back.

    Make sure there's always some one you can talk to this could be a teacher, family friend any adult but remember they aren't qualified to deal with this kind of thing so yes a counciller is the best way to go.

    I think by the sounds of things someone needs to have words with your parents because you shouldn't have to live like this, and if things don't improve something needs to be done about getting you out of there.

    If you ever want someone to talk to your welcome to pm me, i hope things improve for you ^_^

  • Katlette
    15 years ago

    Do what you think is right. What you think will help you out or make you happier. Yes sometimes the right thing is the hard thing but it may help you in the long run.

    if you ever want someone to talk to you can om me. :)