How do you know what to think of a GUY?

Well you know how there can be complete tools, or players, or actually really good guys? How can I tell the difference between them and what are signs that they are actually no good?

I really need opinions from any perspective.

"Accidentally" spill your drink on him and assess his reaction carefully.

Pretty much you just have to get to know them

"Accidentally" spill your drink on him and assess his reaction carefully.

You stole that idea from me Abby, and I know that because I told you about it years ago in an email.

How dare you, unless..unless you've absorbed it as truth, and now think of it as your own idea, which is rather cool.

I'd suggest asking him to play a game you are very good at, tennis or scrabble. Kick his ass and see how he reacts.

Nuts, I hate it when my stolen ideas get owned again. I thought I'd stolen it from one of my close female friends. Figures it was you.
I've stolen every single idea in my head, actually. Including that sentence.

Did you do that with this BF..?

I played tennis with my current girlfriend before we started properly dating.

She made Kung Fu noises and tried fly kicking the ball, and didn't even frown when I served her up an ace that socked her right in the knee.

She is a goodun.

Hmm, look at how he treats his enemies.

I don't think there ought to be "for certain" tests. There are too many blind spots in love and life. I think what's of more importance is exactly that: importance. What is your worth to him and what is his worth to you. How he treats and reacts to you depends a heck of a lot on how he rates you. The same applies with how you view and interact with him.

Naaaaah, it's way more fun spilling drinks on people.

One of the most important things, I believe, is to observe how he treats others. His family, friends, strangers, and depending on the circumstances, teachers, co-workers, etc. To me, how he treats other people in his life is the best judge of character. Don't go around asking others questions about him, everyone has their own perceptions of others, get it straight from the horses mouth and see for yourself.

As Britt said, getting to know someone before you become emotionally or physically involved with them is the smartest and safest way to go.

I think I am with Abby on this one. :P Spill the drink on them and analyze their reaction.

Well..lets turn that around. From a guy's point of view: If you're just doing that for the fun of it or think that would give you depth into a man's soul, then you're just not even worth it.

Save your drink, save your trouble.

^Save your sense of humour.

Maybe you're both right. Spilling a drink on a man would give you a good indication of his personality... but let's not be too hasty here. I think what ChaoticallyMe is really saying is "Ye gads! Don't spill your vodka! Spill your water!"

I'm pretty confident that's what she meant.

Wear some thing that you know isnt to revealing and see if they notice you. most players go for the easy catches.

But then again watching them is usually better seeing how they react to other peoples shows you their personality quiet well.

Save up some wind, as in gas...walk up to a guy you like and ask him to pull your finger..then let it go.

If he is still there, and smiling..it's love..if not he is a wuss and would have probably needed you to change his nappies.

Kevin, I don't know if I would settle for that one though it might tell you something. Don't know it it's telling you the right thing :P

Chaoticallyme is a guy. His name is Chao. His humor does kinda suck sometimes :P

I like spilling a drink on the guy, yeah. Other methods -
You can tell a lot about someone by the friends they keep.
If he tries to rush you or pressure you into anything, he's a jerk.
Listen to how he talks about other females.
An animal lover is usually a good lover.
Does he make you feel comfortable and good about yourself? Do you feel like you need to hide big aspects of your personality from him?
Music. What kind of music does he like? If he's into rap that degrades women, that's not a good sign.

One cent. Two cent. All yours.

I think Jane just about hit it. :]

"Chaoticallyme is a guy. His name is Chao. His humor does kinda suck sometimes"

Oops. Sorry.

Wisdom from my mom: "You can tell a lot about a guy by the way he treats his mother, and pets."

My first boyfriend thought his mother was a ninny, and pushed my dog over with his foot.

My current boyfriend is doting to his mama, and lets his cat drink out of his milk glass. Guess which one is better!

Hmmmmm...... #2!

Yeah, another huge sign for me is how a guy talks about his family.
If he complains about a bunch of petty crap and doesn't appreciate his family or feel protective of them, that's a major turn off. The teenage mindset is not attractive. Blah.

Unless their parents are like... abusive or meth addicts. But yes, the typical "omg, my parents suck, they made me wash the dishes once" thing is pretty annoying.

And yes, #2 is the winner! Ding ding ding!

Unless there's actually something legitimate to be upset about, yeah. That's what I meant.

Haha..I did say "from a guy's point of view". Yes, my sense of humour isn't always agreeable. I wasn't offended or angry at anything. Just saying that that isn't a good way to find a guy out. Can you imagine if that cat took the bf's milk and try to spill it on him to find out if he's a good servant (see quote on this website regarding "dogs have owners, cats have staffs")? Although..it'd be awesome to have a cat that can do that. Mean cat, but awesome.

If they spend more time gettingto now you then they could be interested and if they ignore other girls.....thats how i noticed:D