My friends think im a.....

Ok i dont know this for sure but i think my best friends think im a slut.Even though i dont no this for sure i have been told to my face that im a slut yes i do wear tops that show a little (not that theres much to show ^.^) and short skirts and backless dress and have snogged my bf but i thought a slut was someon who had skirts sowing there ass top that show there bra and more bras see through and lacey and flirts with all the boys but i could be wrong

Nobody should be calling you a slut, that is disrespectful. However, immaturity breeds name-calling, so if you are wearing revealing clothes, you will probably earn a few names. Either accept that, or think about changing your wardrobe.

After checking your profile, I see you're only 12 years old. When I was 12, I was wearing baggy t-shirts and jean shorts... attire suited for the kid that I was. I do not think it's appropriate for someone your age to be wearing scandalous clothing, because it is dangerous, it will give boys and men the wrong impression, and you may not understand the consequences.

You probably think I'm an old goat at the age of 23, but 12 doesn't feel that long ago for me.

Jane

I wouldn't like to judge you, but from your profile and your age I would say you're doing things you shouldn't be doing at a young age. Hun, you're 12, enjoy your life and your childhood (yes, you are still a child)... The way you dress and act is not appropriate for your age. Nevertheless, it's wrong for anyone to call you a "slut", especially at your age. The things you're doing are not fun, try being a kid and enjoy life that way.

Honestly, when I was 12 I used to play with Lego. >.<

I still like legos!!

I see why they call you a slut, you give that impression by what you wear at your age. There is no reason for a child to dress like a grown woman. I wore baggy jeans and sweatshirts and the thought of kissing a boy made me gag (cooties!).

Maybe its coz kids grow faster these days but i would also recommend a change of wardrobe..i know you are a strong girl and feel confortable in your skin but u r young and should put on attire that will reflect ur personality.

Don't get caught up in what other people think of you, that is a trap that will drive you nuts.

Be safe, be smart but do what you feel is natural for you, even if that means not alot of clothing.

Yea but the problem is what i wear is alot better then what all the "poplar" kids wear buts its them who r calling me names like alot of the "poplar" kids have done alot more with there bf or randoms some of them but when they ask what i have dont with my bf when i ell they give this look like im whore and its really down putting
ps i LOVE lego and u are not an old goat of 23

Lego is awesome, and I get the same title as a slut just by wearing jeans and a T-shirt. Nothing special. Those people just don't know what they are saying, that or they have the wrong definition of the term SLUT. Believe me, the "populars" are the ones calling you the slut, when they are wearing skirts that show everything and stuff that is 4 sizes too small, ignore them. But you couldn't be a true slut.

~Oh yeah! Next time someone gives you a title, notice how they act and dress. 99.9% of the time they are describing themselves :P

"Slut" is what teenagers call other teenagers who:

1. Sleep with lots or people
2. Sleep with nobody
3. Wear skimpy clothes
4. Wear jeans and hoodies
5. Hang out with lots of opposite-sex people
6. Hang out with only their same sex...

etc etc etc. The so-called "reasons" behind it are meaningless. In reality, it's a term that's only ever used to put someone else down and declare your power and status over them. It's a way of setting yourself apart from another person or group by declaring them "different" or "wrong." That's what's going on when people call you a slut. That's also what is happening when you are calling other people sluts, so cut that out. Just worry about yourself. So people think you're getting too frisky with your boyfriend? Maybe you are and maybe you're not. It's really none of their business. People are going to talk about you if you are wearing skimpy clothes. This is probably a fact that has to be accepted. They might also talk about you if you don't wear skimpy clothes. In the end, you can't control what they think or say, but you can control what you do and what you think about yourself. To that end, some advice.

1. Dress in a way that makes you feel like a good person. Dress for yourself, and not anybody else. Be aware that there will be different consequences for each kind of clothing you wear. Consider them, and then make your decision.
2. Avoid the drama. You say your "friends" think you're a slut? What kind of friends are they? Can't you talk to them? Either they are not your friends at all, or else they are real friends and are worried about some choices you seem like you're making. Try talking to them, listening, giving your opinion, and figure it out. Even though you are having this problem, it almost seems like you're thriving on the scandal a little bit.
3. Don't be in such a hurry to rush into adulthood. There's plenty of time for that. There isn't a lot of time left, however, for you to just be a kid. Try to embrace it if you can. Seriously. Have slumber parties. Call boys, but don't make out with them. Paint your toenails. Volunteer. Build a fricken tree fort. You get the idea.

Thankz for the ideas i will embrace them thankz for making me relize that i have been trying to be older then i am this holiday(yay just finished school for the year) i ill embrace my childish side and its my birthday soon sooo i can be as childish as i want thankz so much

Find it funny that everyone had to come on here and say what they did when they were 12 and what they wore.

Wearing not so lose clothing or wearing lose clothing. Does it make it difference? I teased kids that looked like tom boys she gets teased for not looking like one. It's a lose lose situation, stay away from the kids that are rude as all hell and chill with the people that aren't. And wear whatever the heck you wish too? Rubber boots and a tutu do it up!

Yea! rubber boots and a tutu