is it wrong

Well, it's illegal for him to do anything. I'd be careful... he could just take advantage of you. It is a little strange, i think.

It's illegal to do anything sexually for 2 years, but there are no boundaries on feelings.

It's up to you, dont worry about what your friends think, just worry about what's right for you and try to not get his ass landed in jail. Watch out for yourself too.

i'm 15.. over half my friends are 21+... its not an age think.. its all about maturity.. and is too young for their physical age.. and who is too old for their physical age.. i say go girl!!

I am 16 and have far, far, more adult friends than children my age. In fact I only have one friend my age and I rarely ever talk to him. I am also with an older man.

But 99% of 16 year olds would do better not to date older men and need to take time to grow up.

Yeah, I'm a hypocrit.

I am 13 and all my friends are over 17, but just have to be careful how you choose your friends

...yes...there is definetly a problem with you being with a 20 year old.

having a crush on one, hells no! you will indeed find me drooling over any picture of Matt Damon/johnny depp
(orlando is my main man though, don't know the age don't care)
actually getting involved is a huge no-no.
Hey if you're 16 n he's 20, I can guarentee there's one thing he's after (guess)

also, check the legal age sweetheart, you're gonna have to wait a couple years

The legal issues aside.

What kind of 20 year old guy would date a 16 year old girl?

hmm...let's think about that question shall we?

"What kind of 20 year old guy would date a 16 year old girl?"

Well, I think it's obvious, but let me say it all in one little word

"horny"

Um...No.

All 20 year old guys are horny, not just ones interested in 16 year olds.

The kind of 20 year old guy who would date a 16 year old girl has some sort of maturity problem.

Babyblew: yes I am aware all guys are horny (sigh) but think about it

What is more intriguing to a guy than a younger, more naive and trusting girl?
Ask any guy, I'm sure they will agree the younger ones are more attractive. (not necessarily physically, I mean sexually)

anyway...to the previous post: you fat ladybug
"Of course she has to be carefull, but she also had to be carefull if the guy was 16.. "

first, spell "careful" right

"And what does age matter?? Does age say anything about how mature you are?? Hell no!!"

...I don't even know where the F to begin on that comment.
Of course age is a factor in maturity, twit. (yes! i finally used that word!) of course there are some young people who are indeed wise beyond their years and then there are the older ones who still act like 13 year olds, but that's hardly a factor here.
Past experiences in life and the process of going through them changes prospect and intellect of how our society works (unless you're a complete dumbass)

"In denmark the law forbites sex with people under 15.. And everybody is fair about it.. One of my best friends found her fiancé when she was 13 and he was 17.. now, they have been together for 5 years.. and the fit together.. They even live together.."
So...they're engaged and EVEN live together? that doesn't sound like a very big step to me.
Any fyi plenty of naive kids get engaged in highschool and married when they graduate, it doesn't last and they usually end up regretting it in years after.

"first of all, it is two comepletly (spell?) diffrent things to hang out and to date somebody older then you.."
No shit sherlock. We've already established and discussed that.

"I have a lot of friends who is 4-8 years older then me. And that is no problem.. I have also got a lot of friends in my own ages as well.. "
Fine, I-don't-care
(though your friends must be complete losers to hang out with someone 8 years younger then them:))

"A lot of my friends is dating someone who is between 4-8 years older then themselves.. "
First, it's "alot of my friends ARE dating"
second, then your friends are weird.

"And nobody thinks it is wierd... And getting into jail because of it?? absurd.. "
HAHAHAHAHHA
oooooooh you are a fatter lady bug than I thought. A big, red, pregnant one at that

I've already discussed maturity and the reason why it is illegal is because half the time these young girls don't know what they're doing and are manipulated into becomming sex bitches.

"I thought the US was a free country.. "
ugh dear gosh, don't try to pull that.

I don't think there's anything wrong with it, but you do need to be careful. Sometimes with age difference people don't always see eye to eye...trust me I know.
But I think that if you guys can understand each other, and you know exactly what you're getting yourself into then there's nothing wrong.

I don't think that there's anything wrong with it, but I still don't think that there is anything right with it either. I just turned 14 on april 15th, and my boyfriend is turning 17 on june 7th. I don't think that he will harm me in any ways though, because of how he has treated me in the past. We haven't been together for even a month, and he has liked me for 3 years now. I guess it really matter to know what were you when you two weren't together...? Although, a 16 year old and a 20 year old is a different story. I think that since he's out of high school and is in the middle of his college and you're in the middle of your high school, it's a little bit akward, but unless you two have had a lot of feelings for eachother before hand, then there's nothing wrong with it...

Just be careful is the basic summary of what I said earlier...

Amen.

well i dont know if its wrong.. but if thats the way u feel then i dont think its wrong, lots of ppl going out in my school have large age differences

Not to mention...it doesn't matter if you've been through more drama than the O.C, doesn't make you any more mature or "wise beyond your years" to date someone that much older than you.

Wake up girlies, there's only one-thing-they-want

I have to say that I agree with everything JustPlainMe said (that doesn't happen very often)....When I was 15 I dated a guy who was 21 and why was he dating me? HE WAS LAME! Now I see he was lame and only wanted to get between my legs. I swore I was SO GROWN because my "man" was 21. I tried to grow up too fast. Date someone your own age....besides all of the questions behind his reasoning for dating a 16 year girl your mom might get mad and throw his lame ass in jail..HaHa

I agree completely with JustPlainMe.. he needs to grow up, chances are he couldn't get any girls his own age. And another thing, if you were to go out with a 20 year old.. how is that going to affect your social life? Is he going to want to come and hang out with a bunch of 16 year olds? i know i wouldn't at age 20, and i would hope he'd want to hang out with more mature folk

OK...Miss Nicole....If someone can't say that you haven't been through more than a 26 year old because they don't know you then you can't say that you have because you don't know them. I was 16 once too with the same attitude you have and then I grew up. I was very mature at 16 (or so I thought.) I had an older boyfriend and I hung out with all older people....How silly was I!? I missed my prom, I messed up in school because I'd rather hang out with my "so cool" older friends. I had to finish high school in a lame ass alternative school because I was just like you. Please don't lecture be about your 4.0 average, really I don't want to hear it. You can't tell me anything because I KNOW...I have been there. Older guys go with young chicks such as yourself because they can make you do anything they want. You'll be so naive and believe everything he says. It's true....he's lame and you're silly to be with him. My opinion, YES. (please understand that) If your Mom had half a brain she would put his sorry ass in jail because a REAL mother would KNOW how those "type" of guys work....

If you are waiting until you are 17 to date this man then why are you posting this topic? Why would you wait until you are 17, will you be more mature then? I doubt it. If you used to see it the same way I see it then why don't you now? And your comment on most older people are immature simply shows your level of maturity. Older guys will date young girls like you not because they are immature but because you girls are naive....I was there once, I know. It's not like I'm just some 17 year old girl trying to give you advice. After my dating a guy 5 years older than me I met a guy my own age and surprisingly enough he is the man I am going to marry. These older guys thrive on little girls....for sex and what ever else.

JPM: wasn't really interested in your life story.
nevertheless I get the point.

Who was it that stated "who are you to say I haven't been through more shi* than a 26 year old?"?

Why do we care.
Did I not explain earlier, it doesn't matter how much drama you've been through. That doesn't necessarly mean you are mature enough to date someone that much more older than you, not to mention if you want to all it does is prove my point considering you wouldn't figure what the guy wanted in the first place.

tata

Thank you!

HAHAHAHA!!

sorry.. just felt like laughing

NK....please tell me what you think... I have read a lot of your idiotic comments....I would LOVE to see what you have to say.

me!! i do! i do!

The lamest show ever! Holy moly.....

And besides Degrassi being the dumbest show ever made, that is not what this forum is about.

Ok, i do not know how the subject changed to "Degrassi," but I just want to say that for once, I agree with JustPlainMe. He's right, girlie. Doesn't matter how old the guy is. You need to wait, and grow up too. If you'll read my first post, (the second one on the thread) you can see the following point, again: HE WILL JUST TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOU!!! He might make you feel mature and crap, but really, he's working you into a sick little scheme to get a little girl in a certain bed. Anyway, I hope this works out for you, but PLEASE be careful. Let me tell you... r a p e is not fun. I don't ever want anyone else to have to go through that, and you are basically asking for it. Just... be careful, please!!

Well, Nicole I wish you all the best. I know guys your age are all horny, believe I've been there. But the older guys are the pricks, they are the ones who'll take advantage of you. The gits will just TRY, usually not getting very far...lol I hope everything works out!! Take care and like she said BE CAREFUL!!!

"why, is a guy considered a pussy if he likes an underage girl?"

hahahahhaha
HAHAHAHHAHAHA

That question only displays how much of a moron you are, so I don't really think any of my obvious reasons are going to get through to you.

I'm going to keep that quote and repeat it time after time you rip people new assholes and they are crying :(

...

alright Miss nicole, let me explain why the guy is indeed a "P..." for dating an underaged girl.

Any guy will most likely agree with me that 90% of the time when a guy is looking for a girl that much younger than him, he's after sex.
Nothing else
one thing
he's headen for China town

second: makes you think what's wrong with the guy if he can't get a girl his own age. The very, very small percent of guys who date younge girls when it's not for sex are usually incredibly lonely, looking to take advantage of a naive mind, extremly desperate, or partially demented.

JPM: your theory is well though out

LMAO

lmao

lol i had this 12 year old chick that went out with a 24 year old dude.. she got laid and dumped... haha

What the hell would a 21 year old guy want with a 13 year old girl??? mmmmmmm.....oh my goodness I can't think of anything....That's just nasty.

What an idiot....

SOME of the people in here giving you advice are old enough to know what they are talking about or have experienced it. Being the youngest of 3 and seeing SO MUCH at such a young age I was quite mature at 11 and 12 but that didn't mean that I was capable of having a relationship. At 15 when I did date a man who was 20 I still wasn't capable of having a real realtionship with a man. Maybe someone my own age, but while I was in class he was working full time. While I was riding a bus he was driving his own car. While I wanted to talk and go see a movie, he wanted to have sex. There are major differences between a 16 year old and 21 year old regardless of maturity levels....I think that is everyone's point here.

You asked us if it was wrong, so deal with what you get. We are all giving you OUR opinions, because you asked for it. I don't think anyone has put you down, just telling you what we think.

"who said he couldnt geta girl his age? I know of at least 2 girls his age that would die if he even spoke to them."

Hmm, either your guy has a problem that is deeper than you could figure (such as subconcously he is attracted to little girls, which most of them are)

or if he isn't, I can describe those girls...
fat effing effers covered in zit grease with so much oil in their hair you could bottle 'n sell it to the koreans.

tata:)

(btw...13 and 21.....'nuff said.)