is it wrong

babygurl:

You are a 16 year old girl....you just further proved my point. You lost your VIRGINITY to a 21 year old and he will forever have a place in your heart....so in other words he ditched you after he got a piece, huh? MY POINT EXACTLY!! He had a different agenda then you ever imagined.

Why should anyone have faith in a MAN who is interested in a 16 year old GIRL? There are just too many differences. Age does matter... regardless of how mature you THINK you are, you are ONLY 16. He is a MAN, with adult responsibilities that you don't have and probably don't understand. I was JUST LIKE you when I was 15...I thought I had all the answers. Of course when I met him we didn't know each other's age either. I understand that at 15 I couldn't believe that he liked me for any other reason than for just being me. Now as a 20 year old woman I can see my mistakes....I can see why I was so blinded. I DID have faith in him but I got screwed in the end. He hurt me so bad....At 15 years old my life was all screwed up. I was so SURE that he was in love with me and that we'd be together for so long and then I walked into his brother's house and saw pictures of him and another girl all over the walls. Oops. Guess what, the girl was HIS age! And I never thought it was weird that I met him through a girl who had sex with him when she was 13 when he was about to turn 18....So I came to the conclusion that he was USING me!! DUH! Get a clue, really. You're probably not the only little girl he's trying to get IN. No one is trying to be rude but you keep leaving the opportunity WIDE open. We can see the worst in people because we have experienced the very thing you are asking advice for.

"why dont y'all have any faith in people."

Because human beings are naturally untrustworthy.

It's just the way it is, get over it and stop pretending it's something else.

My generation? Um, I'm four years older than you. If you were more educated and stronger than me then you wouldn't have asked US for advice. It is not a BAD thing, and whether you want to acknowledge it or not I was in the same EXACT situation. The only difference between our situations is I handled mine on my own and I realize that I was a complete jack ass for believing him and all his promises. Yes, maybe you are handling it differently, but I’d say if you were you wouldn’t have asked what we thought. All guys are the same, some are move loving and more sensitive, but ALL of them are HORNY! That's life, deal with it. And a 20 year old man wanting to date a little girl your age just proves my point.

And if you don't have faith in people how could you ask anyone else to?

its only four years! if u love him dont listen to what neone else ses ESPECIALLY the ppl on this forum! lol

good luck with everything

xxxxx

ESPECIALLY the people on this forum? Anyone in particular you want to call out? Don't be afraid, no one can come through your monitor and beat you up....

Girls Nicole's age will agree with her of course. In the eyes of young girls it is "cool" to have an older boyfriend. It some how makes them more "grown up" then everyone else their age. They are mature because their boyfriend is so damn LAME. What the hell does a grown ass man want with a little girl? Hmmmmm let me think....Gee I can't think of one single thing....... Please people open up your eyes!

"once again i have to say this, you are nothing like me. Nobody is, was, or ever will be like me. You may have been through similar things, but not exactly.

What do you mean"get over it and stop pretending it's something else"?

I know i opened this up for discussiona nd all, but still, like i just said, not everybody is the same. But if you must think that every guy is like the ones you've had, just because u r older, then go ahead, just like any adult would. Think that we are gonna make the same mistakes you did. Well, ill tell you this, i won't we are more educated about these things and in many ways we're stronger than your generation. I can take care of my self.

I know people cant be trusted, i dont trust any one really. I have never been given reason to before.
umm g2g"

I meant stop pretending it's something else because it's just a fact: man is born evil.
now when I say evil I don't mea mass murdering, rapist evil. I mean own intentions come first, that's not an opinion, it's a fact.

"not everybody is the same."
Let me ask you something. if you had to bend down and tie your shoe but couldn't hold your purse at the same time, would you ask a passing stranger to hold it?
...didn't think so.

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But if you must think that every guy is like the ones you've had, just because u r older, then go ahead, just like any adult would. Think that we are gonna make the same mistakes you did. Well, ill tell you this, i won't we are more educated about these things and in many ways we're stronger than your generation. I can take care of my self."

HAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH
you obviously didn't look at my age.
dear lord, "any adult would" "my generation..."
news flash sweets, I am your generation!
I'm 16 years old, dear lord, lol.

and about "the guys you've been with"
Actually I have never been heart broken (though that's not much to brag about considering I am indeed only 16) and I have had a great selection in guys, I have never had one that disrespected or mistreated me in any way.

Soo....what's your argument again?

heh, did you guys know that in Utah you can have sex when you are 16 and older, so long as you're 'partner' isn't more than 10 years older than you?

We do! Well, I do. I KNOW, I have gone through the same exact thing myself, which is what I have been trying to explain. I understand what it's like, I know how people can look at you and I have been trying to explain this to you. You have to realize why we are saying the things we're saying. You asked for advice so take it or at least listen to it. You have to wonder about his intentions, does he just want to be with you or he is using you...? You can't answer that, you DON'T KNOW. Don't say you do, he is the ONLY one that knows. Soon enough you will find out...Been there done that and it sucks. I had my heart broken because I believed this 20 year old man loved me, I just knew he wanted to be with me. I never questioned him or thought that our "relationship" was a little odd. I never questioned the fact that a 20 year old wanted to date a 15 year old. Apparently it was cool. I think the reason girls like older guys is because it gives them a sense of maturity, they feel more grown because other girls do look up to them for it. My friends couldn't believe that I had a 20 year old boyfriend. At lunch I'd call him on the pay phone and I always had a crowd of girls around me wanting to say hi. Besides his motives, what are yours? And I don't care what anyone says a 20 year old man is out for sex, regardless of age.

Closer to the time you are going to see him? Do you know him? Please don't tell me he's an internet date...?

well if u lived in england it is even legal to have sex aswell... 4 years is nothing..... atleast 5 of my mates have had a boyfriend over the age of 24-25 and im 17 i dont think its a big age gap personally

Wait...feel it out and then make your decision when you are SURE....

anyone can have feelings for anyone.....

its a little strange that he would like someone that much younger and not legal and stuff....

but for the most part i dont think its bad....

just be careful with him...

What kinds of feelings if your talking about love then no I don't think its wrong but if your just going to have sex with him, and go on then I think thats wrong but if its for love it isn't werid at all if your starting to fall in love, and he feels the same go for it girl cause you never know what kinda love you may find, and thats the best part about it.

That's what you wanted, for everyone to see it your way. Just to validate your beliefs. Anyone can have feelings for another, true. But why would a 20-something year old man want to be with a 16 year old?

bleeding...shut up.

"only 4 years difference"

I seriously hope you are under the age of 14, if not, you're just an idiot.

There's a difference in maturity and experience. a HUGE one. 16-you're just learning to drive and still depend on your parents
20-you're a legal adult and are near the age to have the legal ability to get wasted

let's make some examples of numbers...
32 and 36: big difference? hell no. both are adults, pretty much done with the learning about life experience
8 and 12 (not that you would be seriously dating then): HUGE difference for obvious reasons. I don't think I need to define the maturity and intellectual difference between an 8 year old and 12 year old.
22 and 26: not a big difference. For same reasons above
11 and 15: big dif, obvious reasons
15 and 19: usually a pretty big difference in maturity levels. Not to mention not legal

you see my point.

Illegal to be together. But hey the 16 year old
just has 1 more year `til she is legal to have sex.
So I see no problem with it. They just have feelings. You can't control the heart. The heart controls you.

all i got to say is PLEASE BE CAREFUL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I wish you all the luck that people who win the lottery have........

Peace N Luv

I'll say this once because it'll cause feathers to fly, but they have to be ruffled to make you think. I'm also going to curse, because it's poignant here:

Act your fucking age. Any 'man' who can't find a woman of an equitable age is a fucking loser and wants just one thing. It's pink if you need a hint.

If you think that having sex makes you mature and grown up think again.

Get back down the mall and bugger about while you still have the time to get away with it.

B

The lottery luck thing is about right. You have a 1 in 14,000,000 chance of your 'man' being worthwhile. Bear that in mind.

I think maybe you should look somewere else for a relashionship , the age gap is very big and there are many people out there maybe you should just let this one go and move on because for one it's pretty much illeagal and two the probability ^^ that it will work out isn't very high!
*good luck tho*