IM A PREGNANT TEEN

Why did you get pregnant and how old are you?!?!

Have you told your parents? Do you know FOR SURE? Have you been to planned parenthood to find out all your options?

GET AN ABORTION. NOW.

If you have this child you will RUIN your life.

Your child will have a miserable life.

Don't do this to yourself or to your son/daughter.

If you really need o go through with the birth than put your kid up for adoption. But it's abusive to try to raise it yourself.

And you need to learn a lesson from this. It's called a CONDOM and it is VERY HANDY. There are also these magical devices called BIRTH CONTROL PILLS. See?

"GET AN ABORTION. NOW.

If you have this child you will RUIN your life.

Your child will have a miserable life.

Don't do this to yourself or to your son/daughter.

If you really need o go through with the birth than put your kid up for adoption. But it's abusive to try to raise it yourself.

And you need to learn a lesson from this. It's called a CONDOM and it is VERY HANDY. There are also these magical devices called BIRTH CONTROL PILLS. See?"

You have no right to say that. For a start telling her about contraception is obviously a bit too late anyway, and telling her to get an abortion because she and her child will have a miserable life is extremely unfair. How do you know what kind of parent she will be? She came looking for support, not for someone to tell her what to do. Think twice before you say something like that again.

I have had a little boy, when i just turned 13. I love him with all my heart. I am totally against abortion, but everyone around me was saying 'get an abortion, you wont cope'! I have had alot of support and i have got this far, i will carry on.
It is up 2 u hun! But whoever said GET AN ABORTION NOW! shouldnt of said that. Its up to you. Please email me. goldigga18@hotmail.com.
Id like to talk to you.
Hayley-Ree xxx

i agree i dont think that was fair to tell her to have an abortion. you dont know her or the situation she is in.

do what YOU want. not what the father wants not what your parents or friends want. this is about you and your child! you will only ever be happy from this situation if you follow your heart...trust me!

Nada- if she isnt pregnant, then yes this is pretty sad. But if she is, she needs all the help and support and advice she can get. Trust me.
I dont think someone would make summin like this up, but then again.. there are some strange people in this weird world!!!
Hayley-Ree xxx

hide & seek - please reply to these posts... and a couple of questions.. Who else have you told? Have you told the father? and How far along are you? Plz reply.
Hayley-Ree xxx

Yeah, same here. There are so many people, that lie about these things, you never know when their telling the truth!!!

A.Robin, seriously, it doesnt matter how old you are. Aslong as you have the support of family and friends. You cannot kill your own flesh and blood! it is a horrific thing, and i would never do it. I have the support of my now bf, who helps ALOT with jake, and my parents and alot of my friends, they help me so much, and if you havent got them, then you make it on your own. But while i was pregnant, everyone was saying have an abortion, before its too late, but when my mom saw his face when he was born, she said "i'll be here for you, every step of the way" and thats what you need.
Not abortion nor adoption! SUPPORT!!!!! xxxx

Well Bob the reason why the girl is usually the one viewed as the rightful authority is because she is the one who actually conceives the child.
Not necessarily fair to the father, but that's life.

It depends on what the father is saying to do. Whichever decision is best for the child I think is the one you should go with.

"i agree i dont think that was fair to tell her to have an abortion. you dont know her or the situation she is in.

do what YOU want."

See, if the father is saying to get an abortion but the mother doesn't want to, I think it's her choice. Mainly because it is her body, her decision. I'm not sure about the other way around. I'm pretty much for if one parent wants the child to be born, then no abortion should be involved. (whether the one who wants the abortion is the mother or father. If one wants the child to live, then by all means let it live).

"Don't do this to yourself or to your son/daughter."

Right... Don't raise it and take care of it. Kill it... that's a lot better.

~Ciao Lipton

"Get an abortion NOW"

What the ---- is that? She's 13 and is "grown" enough to have sex so she needs to deal with her situation. Oh let's kill a baby because chicks now a days are fast as hell before they're out of middle school. She opened her legs so she needs to deal with it.

I am not trying to be mean towards you because of your situation! I can't even imagine what must be going through your mind to be pregnant at 13... scary!!! Keep your head up and THINK LONG AND HARD!

I don't think that this post was a very good idea....being that there have been some real dumb ass responses. Anyway I hope it all works out for you!!

Abortion is murder...and murder is a sin...

She has only said she is pregnant! She hasnt said she got pregnant! ok obviously i know how you get pregnant but I mean.. she couldve got raped! Im so sorry if im wrong. but she hasnt said anything else.
And how the ---- can you kill something so innocent when the rapist commited the sin?! You cannot do something to an unborn innocent child!!
Hayley-Ree xxx

Tell your parents if you had not yet so they could help you but just dont go through abortion cause its wrong there is other ways to handle things like that........

Listen...don't get an abortion. Okay. Give this child life. And instead of thinking how it will reck ur life. Think of a couple who can't have kids and how it will complete their life. That's what I would do in that situation. And don't rag on her u guys...she's scared and that's understandable.

email me sometime
swimgirltobe@hotmail.com

i agree with you!! Dont get an abortion!!
Hayley-Ree xxx

You cant just murder a baby, bcus its your own fault! its your fault you had sex without protection. you should have been more responsible or you wouldnt be in this situation. its your fault you got pregnant. so you should be scared. all i can say is dont get an abortion. im strongly against them, just think, if you do get an abortion, you would have killed a human being. YOUR human being.

*for the first time ever i actually agree w/ Nada...lol*

I go to a school where the entire high school student population rounds to about 320 (the elementary school only has about 220 kids-our town only has about 1000) NEWAYZ...in this school year alone there are 5 girls who are pregnant...last year there were two girls who were pregnant (one of them was one of my friends...we were sophmores)...i just found out a couple months ago that my older sister -she is 20 (got pregn. @ 19) is having a baby in August...

Nobody plans on getting pregnant...granted at 13 you shouldnt have been having sex in the first place...you are still a kid yourself but if you thought that you were old enough to have sex then you are now old enough to handle the consequences like them or not...

and whoever said to have an abortion....YOU ARE SICK!!!!! what if your mother was told to have an abortion....?

do whatever your heart tells you and God Bless...in the end the right thing will be done...i am here if you ever want to talk...xox Chelle

I have an idea!

Give your baby the greatest gift of all... give it life.

~Ciao Lipton

Lipton And Michelle!!! Well said!! I totally agree with you...
If you are old enough to have sex... you are old enough to have a baby!! -my cuz said that to me, and i thought, how true!!!
Hayley-Ree xxx
HIDE & SEEK!!! PLEASE REPLY!!!!!!!!!!!

Abortion is not the answer to it. You're just killing someone that is apart of you. But no one can make that decision for you. You have to make it for yourself. But why would you want to kill someoene that is part of you?

Im mixed feelings on this....

First off, if your having sex at obviously a young age, then you should accept the consequences! I mean if you can spread em, then you can have em. And comdoms DONT protect you from getting pregnate, even if you DO use Birth Control. . . I mean i've had two misscariges and i know and respected what i had to do if i did have the kid. . . but it never happened. Anyways, condoms just are ment for protecting agains sexual transmitted diseases... not kids. And birth control HOPEFULLY works. I was on it when i got pregnate, when i used a condom. Thats why your parents tell you to wait to have sex, their not lieing. They know that its something to enjoy when you've found someone, and are mature and ready to have a kid. Because having sex gives a high risk of pregnancy. Blah blah blah though. If you are pregnate, i hope you just understand that its NOT the baby's fault. dont ever take anything that has happened to you with your pregnancy on your child. Love that baby with all you have, and be there for them even when they dont come to you first.

-sry about the mixed confusion-

hey, adie, you have a serious verbal problem!! I think you need to sort that out... i have a number for you ok.. 0800-fuck-you. hope its useful!
Silly gurl...

do what YOU think is right. Not what anyone else says. U have the strength to raise a child, but will u be able to love it?

If u know you'll love your child, thats all that matters.

good luck

xxxxxx

hun,it's not the baby's fault. why would you punish the baby by killing it? yes, you'll have a few rough years of being up all night. but it'll get better. you'll have so many good memories.

"a couple years of up all night and a few thousand dippers later. That mistake he thought he made covers up the refridgerator oh ya. He loves that little girl. Mama's waiting to tuck her in. As she fumbles up those stairs. She smiles back at him. Dragging that teddy bear.Sleep tight. Blue eyes of mountians curve. And he smiled, There goes my life. There goes my future, my everything. I love you daddy good night. There goes my life."
-Kenny Chesney, There goes my life

it's a great song. It fits your situation perfectly. i hope you make the decision you feel is best. Remember, God is with you.

vedali

Well said Georgie...I had my son at 18 if you want personal advice please email me your situation and ill see if I can help, if not Im happy to listen and share my own experience :O)

Why the hell are you havin sex at 13 anyway? Really it's your fault you got pregnant...
Should have used condums...

Um I've basically read the entire thread, and although I find it kind of funny that the person who started the thread has yet to comment, but I will give some of my advice/opinion anyways. First off, I think it is completely unfair for anyone to scream "DO NOT GET AN ABORTION" for it is not your life, it is someone elses, let her make that decision. I have a son, and I wouldn't want it any other way, but personally I believe that if the child is born and she hates it/regrets it being born, and treats it in a dispicable manner, than I believe that an abortion would probably be better. It would save the child from a lot of pain and anguish in the long run. Do as you please, and I hope it works out for you in the end.

Kalika

Living Dead Girl you did not give this girl advice you gave her your own perspective and opinion which isn't fair, abortion might not be right for you but who are you to judge those who do utilise the option? Who died and made you God?

I personally wouldn't have an abortion, but I also wasn't pregnant at 13, I was however at 18 and i had my son. But I had a job, a partner who was devoted, my own home and my education under my belt. Also you do tend to grow up a lot in between the ages of 13 - 18. Don't judge her or demand she not have an abortion by laying a guilt trip on her, give her the facts and let her decide what is right.

Obviously Elrisa, you did not read my entire post, and only the bolded words. In fact I am completely fine with abortion, and encouraged her to make her own choice. The bolded print was quoting what many other people where saying in this thread, and the rest of my post was spent refuting it and saying how it was unfair for them to say that. I completely agree that if she needs to get one, she should. I'm sorry if that was not clear, but I was pretty sure I made that opinion very obvious. Secondly I did offer her advice, I told her to do what she believed she had to, not what others told her to do. As I said, sorry if I didn't make this clear earlier

Kalika

whoa, ur 13 and pregnet, wow, look i wish i could help u i just dont know what to say, i would suggets and abortion, but only do that if ur willing and if ur strong enough cus and abortion is a hard thing to do, or have the baby and give up for adoption, or u can try ur best to raise it on ur own, do ur parents know yet? what about the father?, i would tell ur parents first and then inform the dad, tell him he can be invovled as much as he wants to god knowing he wont be even if u tried to make him, young dads usualy run out, not all the time but it does happen, and i would understand if u were afraid to tell ur parents but believe they will tyr to help, i wish u the best of luck

My best friend Jordan just had a baby boy Christopher 3 1/2 months ago, he's the best thing that ever happened to my friend and he's only 17 and his girlfriends 16...personally, i'm against abortion but if you think its right you should do it. but first i would tell your parents if you plan on keeping it. my best freind is pregnant and doesn't know the dad..but she's agaianst abortion and is going to have it. but do what you think is right and what you feel is most comfortable with you..good luck with everything.

put the poor thing up for adoption when its born, seriously, let the kid have a chance at life instead of abortion!

Ismail-AT 13??????? Normal????? u crazy.

We got no proff of the age of people on the internet?!

who?!

hide and seek is 13...

You know, the poor girl is so young and she's dealing with something most of us know nothing about personally... I'm sure debating the fate of her unborn child isn't helping her! Everyone has their opinions, but imagine getting pregnant at thirteen under any circumstance! At thirteen, even if she decides to have the baby, she also has to worry about the child being stillborn or having a miscarriage from all the stress BECAUSE she's so young...

I'm here for ya hun. I've had a scare or two myself but never really had to deal with it. Dispite everyone arguing over something only you can decide, everyone's here for you. Look how many people want to help you (regaurdless of weither or not they're really helping, lol).

If you want to talk my email is Deepdarkdarling@yahoo.com.

Be strong hun... we're here for ya! :)

♥Niki

Everyone makes mistakes! Can you honestly say, weither it was as extreme or not, that you have never made a mistake? That you've never hidden something from your parents? Yeah, it might of been stupid. Yeah, she might not have been thinking straight. But it's not our job to judge her or her choices. She just wanted support, if she didn't, she never would have said that she was scared.

And another thing, she could have been raped. It happens every day, and she never descriminated anything specific that happened, just that she was pregnant.

But the issue here was the pregnancy, not HOW she got pregnant... I wasn't telling her to do anything either way. I was just trying to support a confused girl... My personal opinions have nothing to do with what this girl beleives in and what she feels is right. It's her choice, and she has to decide what's right for her- my opinions should have no affect on that!

It's not about what we would do. It's about what she's going to do. And right now it just seems like she's trying to cope.

♥Niki