i dont know what to do....

right now i hate my life....

and second of all i have no friends....all summer so far i have been sitting here basically waiting for my friends to call me...i call them occasionally but they dont answer....and so we finally hang out, the 4 of us, for my friends bday party.....and all they talk about the WHOLE time is about the things that they have been doing....all the times they have hung out this summer and all this crap.... they went and played video games in another room and i sat by myself and NONE of them realized i wasnt in there with them for over an HOUR....and even then they didnt notice...her cousin did....

they dont care about me anymore...they dont invite me places...they dont call....they dont do anything.....and one of them i have known since like 3rd grade and been best friends with since 6th...and now she does this stuff to me.....

i dont know what to do....i just want to crawl in a hole and never come out....

does anyone have any advice or anything to cheer me up any??

oh and do yall think i should uninvite them to my party on saturday??

please help!!

=(

Keep them invited, but don't keep them close.

Find new friends, people who suit you and actually apreicate YOU.

Life is what you make of it, don't let others determin your apreication of it.

Well, this past year I've been in the same sort of situation myself. When I came to Finland, my friends here (who I've known forever) have all forgotten me and they're all bestfriends now. But, I decided that i'd just forget about them and move on. Now I've made new friends and everything is so much better

I suggest that you call ONE of them, only one, and meet somewhere. Whoever you feel the closest with and talk to them about how you feel. I mean if she/he's a real friend she'd care for you and make sure that you didn't feel 'left-out' again. If everything goes well then I'd say invite them to your party, and if not then forget about them. There are probably other people in your neighborhood who feel lonely and in need of a friend.

see i would try to talk to them but like one of them i dont even like..so i dont consider her a "friend" anyways....

and then the one ive known the longest is always like..."oh if u need to talk, im always here" blah blah blah....

and then when i actually do try to talk to her she doesnt even listen....she just kinda agrees or watches tv or whatever....and doesnt even pay attention to what im trying to say....

its so hard to make friends here....like i have alot of friends....just not CLOSE friends.....

and see when they would go and hang out without me...they would go and hang out with more of my friends.....

i just dont know.....

i just really need someone CLOSE to me right now....see i really want a boyfriend, someone i can feel close to. but hell i cant even get that....

i know part of the problem with my "best" friends....is that (not trying to brag or be conceited or whatever) i am VERY mature for my age....i dont like acting childish....i DO like going out and messing around and having a good time....BUT i DONT like acting like a 10 year old...and thats what they do...

and so i guess they feel that im not "enough fun" for them....

its sad when they even said this about themselves...they go "yea i think i have the maturity level of a 5 year old"....and theyre freakin 16 with a drivers license....come on now....

ahhhh >:0

One question: Why do you think you can't get a boyfriend?

I highly doubt you CAN'T get one...I think it has to do with attititude. If you keep your mind open and stop a nice looking guy, go talk to him. Who knows? I mean, that way you could get a close friend and all.

We are each the master of our own destiny, CB. Nothing is offered on a plate and we have to make each and everything work for ourselves.

You're left alone in a room... go and join your friends.

Perhaps you are secluding yourself off from your friends and you don't realise it. Before you look anywhere else, look inside. You'll find the majority of the causes AND solutions right there.

Stand tall and walk proud with a spring in your step.

Hope this helps,

B

hey sweetie, im kinda in a rush, i read the first bit about your club, and i dont know what else is there. But my little moto is "My life aint crap, it just has a lot of issues".
If you ever need to talk sweetie im here.
Theres more to life than clubs.
Love ya
xxxx

thanks u guys!!

see about the whole boyfriend thing....i guess i COULD....but alot of times i guess im not their "type" or whatever.... alot of times they just really see me as a friend.... but i invited a guy to my party that i like....so im gonna maybe sorta go for it and see what happens.....

see and like someone said that I may be secluding myself....but really i dont think i am....i mean i have called them....and they dont call me....

i called my best friend and we made plans with each other at like 730 when i got finished with something i had to do....well i called her at her house at like 740...no answer....went by her house and her car was there......so i decide to call another friend to see whats up....and ALL of them are hanging out with other people too......first of all they didnt call me to say "hey wanna join"....and also...she didnt call me and say "well hey im gonna go hang out with them, can we hang later".....she totally broke our plans without telling me, so that she could hang with them.....

i have made plenty efforts to make things work out...its just honestly i dont think they want me there anymore.....which saddens me because i dont have any close friends...but also, if they are gonna be like that, then i dont need them....

but idk...me and my mom are trying to figure out what to do.....

but thanks guys for all ur help!! and thanks for actually listening to my problem!!

if you can't call one of them and talk to them then i suggest you leave it alone for a bit...and heres what i've learned just from my experiences...guy friends are so much easier to maintain. personally, i have 2 best girl friends, and about 8 best guy friends...you said guys normally just think of you as friends...so call one of them up just to talk, ask if they want to hang out. try not to flirt but just be confident and act comfortable, like you're supposed to be there. you'll build great relationships that way, you can learn how guys think and act so that when you do get a boyfriend (which i'm sure its possible :) ) you'll have an idea of what guys like, and you'll have friends to go to who don't gossip and bitch so much. its much easier and there's less drama. and as for your friend who broke plans, tell her how you feel, calmly!!!, and if she doesnt apologize or understand, leave it alone. well i hope i helped a little, good luck!

thanks!!

yea i know what u mean about guy friends.....when i was younger thats all i had was guy friends...i was like 12 hanging out with 14-15 year old guys....those were the good ol' days....

and one reason i have soo much trouble making friends with girls, is because i really just dont like girls....too much drama and gossip and competition and shtuff.....

but thanks everyone for all the help!! i really appreciate it alot!!! i just need some time to think about it all.....

im not as mad right now about it all.....yesterday when i posted this i was still really mad......

but im a lil better.....thanks again!!

God Bless!!!

They arent true friends. In your lifetime you will meet many new people who will be there forever...Sometimes it will be a small count but it is worth a wait. You don't need people who don't need you. Think about other things in life at the moment...Like your grades and your future instead of worrying yourself over a bunch of nothings...This happened to me last year, but it will all come to you one day.