so i cracked today

first of all congrats for standing up for yourself and second, i agree with ismail , just let it blow over a little...why cant you live with your mom anyway?

Recently had a similar issue with my dad..
He was drunk also..

Ismail is right, time is a healer..
But dont let it take you back to him every time.
I just joined this community so I dont know if you have posted any previous posts about this.
What I am getting at is I do not know if he does similar when he is sober.
And it also instantly hit me of why your not staying with your mom if this is a continuous issue.
It seems that he keeps somehow bring issues into your mind.
And it just keeps building up?
My dad showed he really does care for me etc, but he did something that highly offended me right in from of me while drunk.
So I left to my moms for 2.4 weeks before I built up the nerve to even talk to him again.
Do not break back down and be 'under' him if he is also that way while sober.
If he really cares then let him apologize for doing what he did, then you can apologize also.
It has to work both ways, it cannot just be you apologizing.
And since he is your father, he should be the first to do show.
This will prove that he really does care, as if you do it first then he may feel somewhat obligated to say he is sorry.
And their is more of a possibility he may not mean it.
Calm down for a few days, kill off contact with him to simmer down.
If you dont it will keep arising the issue in your mind.
Then call him and talk some, but not much.
He should be able to understand how you feel if their is silence.
It should somewhat hurt him because its a realization factor that you two have problems.
If he then starts to apologize you know that its probabally a true apology.
Then I think you should apologize also, maybe not for everything.
But for part of what you said.
Some of it needs to be said to express what you feel.
So that he knows where the issues lie between both of you.
If he cares he will work on them, also one question comes to mind.
Did he ever do this stuff before he got this gf?
Or did it start after that.