Advice please?

Well I got alot of stuff going on and I keep trying to tell my family that im bulimic and everything else thats wrong(i wont go into details because thats not what I need help with) but they keep ignoring me and blocking it out. My consuller(sp?) Told me the first way of getting over something is to admit it to the people you love but they won't listen? How can I get them to notice and to try help me.. Ive been this way (my problems) for three or four years.. and thanks to the help of my best friend I have finally tried to get help.. But my family won't listen =(

Ok thanks. But all I want advice on is how to get my family to listen, And you don't need to know how messed up I am for that..

No actually its not an escuse.. Its not genetic and Im pretty sure I know what I am.. You don't know stuff and thats not the question I asked all I asked was for a little advice but your not giving it your just starting a fight. Which is what I don't like about the saddness fourm so just stop okay? thanks.

I know im a child =)
Okay, thanks for your advice..

okay, no offence, but how many accounts duz lightsniper/heavysniper/coolbrandon have on here? none of them have poems, the only place i see you is in the forums n u never say nethin positive?

lisa, try n tell your family u jus want to talk 2 them or get ur counsellor 2 say u need 2 talk 2 them n hav a meetin with them and her/him, it will be more formal and will seem more serious and important if you're family hear it from a professional.

Forsaken Redeemer
xXx

haha, malfist.....

^.^

Lisa!

Thank you foresaken, Ill think about it.

Bon bon I like your idea as well!!!

And Kim!!

Ok im gonna give you some advice but don't count on it being good, im useless at the moment im afraid. I would just say to them "I really need to talk to you but you don't seem to listen, I could be screaming but still you wouldn't notice me. What can I do to make you notice, to make you listen?" That would hopefully get their attention, or you could write a letter and if they don't get it, actually post it adressed to your parents. Just some ideas.

Thanks hun. Thats pretty good I might try it, I just need to talk to Shauna first thanks a lot =)

It sounds like your parents are in denial. Most parents don't want to think there is anything abnormally wrong with their children. You probably appear healthy, get decent grades at school, etc. and based on outward indications, they think everything is fine because that's what they want to think. Have you mentioned to your school counselor that you are having difficulty communicating with your parents? Maybe he/she would be willing to talk with your parents and at least try to get them to listen to you. Parents are usually more inclined to listen to another adult, especially if it is someone from the school.

Another thing you might try is to write a letter to your parents. Letters are very hard to ignore and they often have more impact than talking. Don't make it overly long and don't go into your specific problems. Just let them know that you love them but that it makes you feel sad and isolated when they act like they are ignoring you. And let them know you don't expect them if to personally solve every problem that comes along. You just want them to hear you out.

I wish you all the best in dealing with this. I know it isn't easy.

I don't think that is true. I have been struggling with bulimia for almost two years now and no it's not an excuse. I think that's really selfish of you to say that and the worst part about it is that you probably never had to deal with an eating disorder in your life before.

i agree

Thanks All of you, Im going to ask my vice principal to talk to them(hes the one I talk to and he sent me to the consuller(sp?)) And I hope they listen, I try not to fight with them and everything to keep it civil but they might be indenil.. thanks munches I gotta go.. xXx

i am annoyed with the COOLBRANDON freak. Obviously... he/she has no fucking clue what bullemia is, and they shouldnt speak of what they know nothing about.

im sorry things arent working out for you.

coolbrandon, if you don't believe in bulimia and you don't believe in manic depression, then what do you beleive is wrong with us all? do you honestly think we like to be the way we are? or do you just like to upset people?

No one is perfect, on this I totally agree, but to say that depression is pretend is absurd. It is a medical condition. Would you say that cancer is pretend?

Maybe, seeing as you are so well informed, you could tell me how much they spend on anti-depressants?

Lisa, I would like to appologise to you, for taking this discussion slightly off topic. I know that eating disorders can also be very difficult to cope with, and I wish you all the best of luck with talking to your parents. I think that you are very brave, I sure wouldn't have the courage to tell my parents.
Luv and Luck
*VioletRaven*

Perhaps the fact that your family won't listen is clear proof that they can't help, anyway.
My own family is exactly like that.
I have to turn to my pets in my times of need.
Just keep strong and keep trying, and also, leave them notes.

They don't have to listen, just read.
I've been doing that sometimes, and they respond a bit more, I just haven't written to them lately.

Also, once in a while, let them read your poetry, tape a poem to their desk, to the kitchen table, to the dashboard..anywhere.
Eventually, if they do, deep down, care about you, they'll respond.

-beth